Woman in Islam: photographs of beautiful Muslim brides in wedding hijabs. Why should a bride cry at a wedding? They have a bride at a wedding
The great love of Marine Joshua Newville and Air Corporal Emily Lehane did not give them any chance to be alone. Having begged the command for a short leave, they decided to get married.
Wonderful lace dress, festive candles, a snow-white cloud of mesh decor, a marvelous bridal bouquet...
The organizers did their best: the ceremony was luxurious.
The main words about love and fidelity were heard.
The main wishes for happiness and long years of joy together were heard.
The newlyweds exchanged rings and concluded the ceremony with a traditional kiss.
It's time for champagne and ceremonial toasts and congratulations from the guests. But Emily suddenly asks for a minute of attention... Those gathered fall silent.
The young wife turns to Gage, Newville’s little son from his first marriage. We don’t know what she said, in what words she expressed her tenderness for the baby. But we see Gage's touching reaction. A reaction indicating that her big feelings found a response in her small heart.
Many adult women who neglect the children of their beloved men could learn this wisdom.
She was not the one who gave Gage the gift of life. But life gave her a gift - Gage.
Emily's sincerity also amazed her husband, who did not expect such a turn of events. Newsville even wiped away a stingy man's tear...
28 Mar 2018
Muslim traditions so strict that even on such a significant day as a wedding, believers strictly follow all traditions and do not even drink alcohol.
The main decoration of the wedding, of course, is the bride. However, restrictions apply even to them.
Wedding Dress should be as closed as possible: thick fabric, forearms, neck and even ears are hidden. Only your hands and face can be left open.
Few of us have no idea how an Arab wedding takes place. To tell you about it, let’s take as an example the customs of such a conservative country as UAE.
Preparation for marriage begins with matchmaking. Although this is a rather conventional stage, since the decision is made by the head of the family. Often men give their daughters in marriage to someone to whom they owe a tidy sum.
From ancient times to the present day, Arabs have had women and men live separately, so the girls don’t even have a chance to choose a groom. What’s more, they can’t even see their future husband before the wedding.
One day the girl finds out that she engaged. Usually the groom's representatives come to the bride's father and discuss the terms of the marriage.
An Arab woman can only learn about her chosen one from her relatives. Sometimes the groom's mother and sisters come to chat with the bride's mother and sisters, but nothing more.
The next stage is notification of relatives and friends about the upcoming ceremony. Sheikhs, who spend several million dollars on weddings, have servants who come to the homes of the owner’s relatives in magnificent outfits with sweets and invitations.
Before the wedding, the groom and his relatives send the young man various jewelry, fabrics for sewing dresses and various souvenirs. It becomes her personal property.
The marriage is formally concluded at the moment of signing marriage contract . It is signed by the groom in the presence of relatives and the father of the bride, in the presence of his family.
A week before the wedding the bride is locked up in a dark small room, dressed in simple robes. It is believed that this way she will be more beautiful on her wedding day. The groom is required to stay at home with his family for several days before the wedding.
Wedding ceremony occurs after sunset. It is not the groom, but a relative who puts the ring on the bride’s ring finger.
The festivities take place in a richly decorated bride's house. The wedding takes place over several days. Random passers-by are invited to come in and eat the wedding dishes.
Men celebrate separate from women. This usually takes place in separate rooms. At the wedding It is forbidden to drink alcohol, since there is prohibition in the UAE.
After the festivities, the groom and his father come for the bride and take her away for the wedding night. In the morning the table is set, and the holiday continues for several more days.
After this, the girl ran out of the hall sobbing. According to media reports, a Singaporean businessman suspected his passion of infidelity shortly before the wedding ceremony. He hired a private detective who confirmed the groom's fears. The man's heart was broken and he decided to take revenge.
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During the reception, as guests sat at tables, he played a video on the big screen that began as a classic wedding video. Suddenly, romantic music and beautiful shots gave way to documentary footage. It shows how the bride and an unknown man are secluded in a hotel room.
As the head of the detective agency AJAX Investigation & Security Services Zhuo core said, at first he and his employees thought that the groom’s suspicions had no real basis - for the first month and a half of observations, the bride did not do anything suspicious, doing ordinary pre-wedding affairs. The detective thought that he was working in vain when the girl showed her true colors.
“She was at the hotel with another person and they left separately but from the same room,” he said. The detective filmed the incident and gave it to the groom. The detective was sure that the client would cancel the wedding. However, he came up with a more sophisticated revenge.
He invited to wedding ceremony his bride's lover and seated him at the table with her relatives. When the parents of the unfaithful girl saw on the screen the man leading their daughter to the room and recognized him as the guest with whom they had been kindly communicating all evening, they were shocked.
For many Slavic peoples, including in the Russian national tradition, it is believed that the bride must cry at the wedding. The origins of this custom are not completely clear to many modern people: after all, marriage is a reason for joy. Why tears? It turns out that the bride’s crying has deep social, cultural and mystical reasons.
Bad married life
Over the course of many centuries, many peasant girls married not for love, but because the groom’s family needed workers on the arable land, in the cowshed, or at the Russian stove. Cooking, caring for children, sowing and harvesting, caring for livestock - all this and many other responsibilities fell on fragile women's shoulders. One could forget about the carefree youth in the parental home.
Father-in-law and mother-in-law are not mom and dad’s own. The husband's brothers and sisters could also often offend the powerless daughter-in-law, who was almost completely dependent on them and could not run away anywhere; there were no divorces. So the girl mourned the happy years with her mother and father.
It is no coincidence that the poet Nikolai Alekseevich Nekrasov wrote the following lines:
The village suffering is in full swing...
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In addition, morals at that time were really cruel. Even a monument of Russian literature of the 16th century, called “Domostroy,” according to the instructions of which many families lived until the 20th century, taught men to beat pregnant women carefully so as not to harm the unborn child.
If even a young wife in position was not forbidden to be subjected to physical violence, then what can we say about the rest of the powerless representatives of the fair sex? The book of spiritual instructions called on men to beat their wives painfully and with zeal, but trying not to cause serious harm to health, so as not to cause deafness, blindness, dislocations, and other serious injuries. After all, in this case, the woman will no longer be able to work fully.
In general, a negative and even contemptuous attitude towards the fair sex, their powerless position and absolute dependence on her husband’s relatives made the bride cry, realizing that she would have a far from comfortable life.
Death and rebirth
Another reason for tears before the wedding is the pagan idea of the transition from girlhood to family life as a kind of death and new birth. The ritual of marriage is the most important of the initiation rites that a person undergoes on his life path. Not by chance, wedding customs somewhat reminiscent of funerals.
White veil, perceived modern people as a symbol of innocence, initially had a completely different meaning. This attribute of the bride’s attire personified part of the funeral shroud with which the girl was covered, saying goodbye to her forever. After all, after the wedding in this world there will be new woman, and the old girl’s life will end.
In anticipation of the wedding, it was customary to cry, because in the parental home the bride, as it were, ceases to exist, she is between two worlds, having lost her former reality, but not yet entering new family. Therefore, the bachelorette party and all the rituals and songs associated with it have a clearly sad, mournful character.
For example, Tatyana Larina’s nanny in Alexander Sergeevich Pushkin’s poem “Eugene Onegin” recalls her wedding:
I cried bitterly out of fear,
They unraveled my braid while crying,
Yes, they took me to church singing.
So as not to offend parents
It's always sad to part with mom and dad. When saying goodbye to her loved ones who raised the girl, she should have shown that the upcoming separation greatly saddened the young heart. The bride, who did not feel sad or cry when leaving her home, seemed to people to be an ungrateful and heartless person.
Therefore, the girl usually wailed:
I lived, a beautiful maiden,
For you, my parents:
I lived and showed off,
My heart rejoiced
Like a bee bathed in honey.
(From a folk song).
But in addition to living relatives, the girl forever left behind good guardians hearth and home, which are the spirits of ancestors. It was believed that they protected her and took care of her from birth. When getting married, according to pagan beliefs, the bride is deprived of the protection of the guardian spirits of her own family and goes under the jurisdiction of the good defenders of another home.
The bride cried so as not to offend her ancestors. She seemed to show them that she was not leaving her father and mother’s house of her own free will.
To avoid crying in family life
Since ancient times, there has been a belief in Rus': “If you don’t cry before the wedding, then you will cry in family life" Of course, no girl wants to be married life was overshadowed by problems or even troubles. That's why the girls often cried from the heart.
It is noteworthy that there was no need to shed real tears for this. It is enough, at the moment of farewell to the household, to sing a folklore song-complaint, performed in a recitative in a minor key. Each region of our country has its own characteristic features that give such girls’ cries their own flavor.
As a rule, in her song, the bride first persuades her father and mother not to give her as a wife, grieves about the happy years of childhood and youth, and regrets that she will never have her girl’s hair braided again. Then the beauty, crying, seems to resign herself to her lot, agreeing to leave her home.
So, for example, a Novgorod girl lamented:
Thank you very, very much,
You are my dear little friends,
That you haven’t forgotten me, a sad woman.
Yes, they came and were not angry,
Yes, take me to strangers,
Yes, strangers, yes strangers,
Yes, a stranger for a stranger.
(From a folk song).
The girl was supposed to look sad, even if she marries her beloved guy and considers herself the happiest in the world.
After leaving her parents' nest, the bride meets the groom. And from that moment on, she cannot not only cry, but also be simply calm. The girl's face should literally glow with a joyful smile. The newlywed must be cheerful in order to show her new relatives how glad she is to join their family.
