10 mistakes that prevent you from building a happy relationship
Every time problems arise in a relationship with a partner, we do not think about the fact that his behavior can be caused by our actions and words. Why do we not take any experience out of our quarrels and partings, do not think about the root causes? Often we take the wrong steps in a relationship and get unexpected reactions from men. We have collected the 10 most common mistakes that prevent you from building a happy relationship.
No. 1. rush things
Enjoy chatting with your partner, go on dates, but don't rush things. Don't move your book collection to him or try to change the curtains in his kitchen after the third date. A man may perceive an attempt to create comfort in a bachelor's hole as an act of encroachment on his independence. Be patient.
No. 2. Let the relationship run its course
Don't relax. It is a mistake to believe that your partner is not going anywhere. A beaten and well-known fact - a man is a hunter. As soon as he got you into his nets, the hunt is over. Don't turn romance into boredom. Remaining sometimes inaccessible and a little mysterious, you will warm up the interest of a man. Men are not interested in those women who sob into the phone and wait for a call, but happy and contented girls surrounded by fans.
No. 3. Constantly criticize him
According to research by eDarling psychologists, contrary to popular belief, criticism from loved ones, friends, and family members is the most painful. Never, especially in public, make fun of your partner, do not "get personal." If you have a fight, do not complain about him to all your mutual friends. You will certainly make peace, and those around you will remember for a long time what you said in upset feelings. Admire your man and believe in him - nothing inspires the stronger sex to exploits like the enthusiastic look of the lady of the heart.
No. 4. Talking too much about a shared future
You should not bother him with talking about the fact that from the age of seven you know how your wedding dress should look like, and what your five children will be called. However, if you have been together for a long time and he still does not think about a joint future, ask directly about his intentions. If your partner says that he is not going to marry you, end this relationship. This is not your man, he is unlikely to change his mind.
No. 5. Use sex as a weapon
Many women use sex as a means of manipulation. You can't deny a man sex based on how well he behaved. The well-known American psychologist and interpersonal consultant Barbara de Angelis states that “Sex is a very important form of manifestation of emotions for a man. It's a way of offering yourself in the hope of being accepted physically and emotionally...it offers you more than sex. It's like he's saying, "Please accept me." Barbara advises never to use sex as a means of manipulation - this can deeply offend your partner and worsen the relationship.
No. 6. dissolve completely in it.
Throwing your own needs and interests, stopping communicating with friends, you do not become more interesting to your partner. At the time of your acquaintance, you were an independent, beautiful stranger with a life full of events, and it was this girl that attracted him.
No. 7. Silently take offense
If your man is not the winner of a psychic show on one of the TV channels, it is likely that he will not guess why you are pouting at him. And the “think for yourself” thrown by you will only piss him off. Men prefer to speak clearly and to the point. In a calm environment, say what exactly you do not like. Do not use the phrases “you are always like this” and “again you ...”. If you don't like something, say how you feel right away.
No. 8. Ask about exes
No one has ever felt better from the realization of the fact that in the life of a beloved man there was a certain Angela - the goddess of love and a master of cooking borscht. Of course, you can and should talk about the past, about the lessons that you learned from previous relationships, but psychologists do not recommend discussing the personal characteristics of former partners.
No. 9. Don't respect personal space
Any relationship is based on trust. No matter how much you love each other, it can be difficult to be together all the time - each of us needs personal space to be ourselves. Never bother checking someone else's phone, email, and social media messages. Decide for yourself once and for all that you trust your partner.
Do not be jealous of friends, hobbies. Better try to learn more about them. If your partner is in a relationship with these people, then they are really interesting people. Your partner is good with people - otherwise he wouldn't have chosen you, right?
