How to understand that a man really loves you?

A woman feels when she is loved, but sometimes quarrels and misunderstandings lead to doubts about the strength of feelings. Analyze the behavior of your loved one, compare it with the description of male behavior when he is really in love with his lady. If your man matches half of the descriptions, then you are lucky!

When planning to connect her life with her chosen one, a woman thinks for a long time, analyzes the model of the existing relationship, and tries to understand the seriousness of the chosen one’s feelings. Scientific works are written about the differences between male and female worldviews, so due to misunderstandings, girls sometimes have doubts about the power of male love. Many actions and factors confirm the truth of feelings, indicating that a man really considers you his soul mate, his destiny, his future wife.

Despite the differences between women and men's concepts of love, a woman definitely feels whether her boyfriend loves her. She determines this thanks to her own feelings, intuition, promptings of the heart, mind, actions that prove feelings. It happens that it is the heart or mind that prevents the acceptance of the painful truth, which destroys hope and plans.

Examples of female self-deception, dope, stupidity:

A woman in love wears “pink” glasses, transforming an ordinary person into a knight, hero, superman. In fact, the “hero” can openly cheat, be rude, neglect, etc., but a stupid heart in love will find an excuse for everything. This is a huge, famous female mistake that promises the lady tears, loneliness, pain, disappointment. Through self-deception, a person in love hopes to protect herself from pain and maintain the hope of change.
The girl suffers from maximalism, idealizes the concept of love, and tries to bring a fairy-tale love story to life. The bar and demands are unrealistically high; she will not be able to understand that a man worthy of her love is nearby until she matures morally. Any actions of a loved one will seem wrong, insincere, selfish, and small to the young lady. Because of stupidity, a woman will lose a truly loving man.
It happens that a girl is too dependent on other people’s opinions, which can be false, envious, and insincere. Here female stupidity again plays a major role. As soon as a friend or relatives are told that the chosen one is unworthy, lazy, stupid, poor, etc., the person begins to panic, doubt, and take a closer look. Doubts easily eat away feelings, destroy trust, the desire to please, to try for a joint future.

Women “love” with their ears, guys take advantage of this weakness, so you need to be able to listen with open eyes, taking off your rose-colored glasses. Love is a steep road to happiness, with obstacles along the way, so be friends with your head, listen to your heart, mind, and intuition in a timely manner.

Memo of differences

The next chapter describes the behavior of a loving person, but ladies should remember that a man is not a template for actions, characters, thoughts, words. People are different, what is characteristic of one is not given by nature to another, but this does not mean an inability to love.

A person in love will definitely talk about his feelings and say the cherished “I love” for the first time, but it is unknown how often he will do this later. Some gentlemen are laconic, it is difficult for them to express their feelings in words, others rhyme on the fly, dedicating poems to the lady. Among the stronger sex there are many shy people; you shouldn’t expect the modest type to constantly describe the strength of feelings. Gradually learn to understand that “I love” is expressed by a kiss, a cup of coffee, or the removal of socks. Practice proves that verbose people more often lose ground when they get down to business.

The topic of financial security is similar. Wait to call the rich man who gave him a diamond ring generous. Of course, the gift is worthy, indicating the seriousness of intentions, but an insolvent person can get a part-time job as a loader in order to please him with a teddy bear. Believe me, the toy deserves more respect, because the person tried just for you. The rich man made a fortune for himself, and now he can easily afford expensive gifts. It is necessary to evaluate a person’s contribution for the sake of love, the smile of a loved one, and a shared future.

There is a huge difference in showing love in public. Most guys proudly kiss their beloved, without hesitation they press her tightly by the waist, and court her in every possible way. But at least a third of the stronger half prefer modesty and restraint. They consider public kisses and pinching to be disrespect for their beloved, ugly behavior towards others, and banal bad manners.

Some psychologists argue that a gentleman should share difficulties with a woman, ask for advice, and listen to opinions. It’s great when a couple has a trusting relationship, but there are men who protect their beloved from negative information, solve difficulties on their own, and try to please, excluding worries. Both types of guys love, but in the eyes of one, sharing means trusting, while the other representative of the stronger sex is convinced that keeping silent means caring, protecting from adversity.

Women, do not equate your loved ones according to a single line, you will become a prisoner of delusions. Remember the individuality of characters, the human soul, and concepts.

Ten proofs of love

From childhood, boys are taught to be strong, not to cry, not to complain. As a result, closed, secretive men grow up who have learned to experience emotions inside. It is difficult for them to express feelings in words, but actions give more clarity, understanding, and specifics. A list of behaviors of a loving person will help you determine that a man really adores you:

Respect. Without respect, love does not exist. Respect is manifested in the ability to listen, a well-mannered form of communication, when one is not distracted from important matters. This includes gratitude for dinner, a gift, and daily care. Respect leads to reciprocal actions. A loved one does not mock what is important or difficult for you, even if in his eyes it is a mere trifle. A friend who shoos a sick girl out of bed to warm up dinner, speaks rudely or interrupts a telephone conversation has no respect.
A loving boyfriend does not hide his chosen one from friends, employees, and relatives. He may not be trumpeting mad love, but those around you will definitely know about your existence. He will not hesitate to invite his chosen one to a group party, friendly gatherings with friends, or a traditional family dinner.
Protection. No matter what people around you say about you, including friends and immediate family, he will not listen. Moreover, he will begin to argue, contradict, or forbid speaking badly about you. Strangers will not be able to interfere in your life.
Physical protection, experience. A loving gentleman, even if he is short and not a judo master, will always rush into battle if his beloved is physically hurt or threatened. He will protect you from possible dangers, meet you late after work, accompany you to a disco, just as you would like to stay at home.
Confessions of love. If the chosen one does not say “I love you,” perhaps he just likes you or the existing relationship is comfortable for him. The love that lives in the heart must find its way out in words, even if not as often as the woman would like.
Joint plans. The seriousness of long-term feelings is indicated by planning, conversations about weddings, children, and joint vacations. It is ideal when “We” appears instead of “I”.
Communication. Loving people are the best friends, and friendship is accompanied by communication. A man appreciates conversations, is ready to listen and support. Discusses the everyday life they have experienced and plans together for tomorrow. He will happily spend the evening together, discussing various topics, indulging in dreams, sharing childhood memories and so on.
Remembers about you, requests, desires. A loving person will find time to see each other, spend money, go to the hospital together, arrange a date. An attentive gentleman will not have to rack his brains over a gift, because he remembers what you like, want or need to buy. He will definitely find time to call from work, find out how you are doing, and say I miss you.
The loved one is ready to change, trying to get rid of bad habits or hobbies that interfere with the future, for example, gambling, frequent drinking of alcohol. He involuntarily changes the way and rhythm of life. Perhaps not everything will work out right away, but the man continues to work to improve their life together and makes compromises. If you are more educated, your loved one tries to listen, grow to a higher level, and look appropriate and dignified.
Care. A loving man takes care of his beloved every day. This manifests itself in morning coffee, solving current difficulties, helping around the house, the opportunity to create silence so that you can sleep. You should especially take a closer look at care at the time of illness; this testifies to love louder than a thousand words, gifts, surprises. Concern is manifested in banal questions: are you cold, are your feet covered, is your bag heavy.

The described points are especially pronounced at the stage of falling in love; gradually, caring may weaken, memory may fade, but it will never disappear completely. As a relationship develops, a man has new responsibilities, the number of worries increases, fatigue accumulates, which is why he is inattentive and may forget something. Your loved one is not a robot, you must treat him with respect, understanding, and patience.

Remember that the stronger sex is not a perfect stencil. If the chosen one corresponds to half of the described signs of a loving person, you are a happy woman.

Financial side

This is a separate chapter, because the topic of money is interesting, complex, and insidious. Initially, many talk about heaven in a hut, but lack of money gives rise to bewilderment, resentment, disappointment, and separation. Not every woman can experience joy and sorrow together. Some people choose to leave.

A normal man knows that food and comfort become his responsibility. Even the beginning of a relationship confirms a person’s intentions and demonstrates their financial position. Does he pay for two people in a cafe, does he give gifts, what does he do so that your couple can afford more?

There is a fine line of understanding when a person tries, but fails, and when it is convenient to sit back and act like a loser. Time will help you figure it out, but initially a woman will have to be patient, believe and raise her personal president.

Finally, it is worth noting that a loving man with words and deeds will prove to a lady that she is the most beautiful, even when she gives birth to a child, gains 20 kg, and wears out her favorite robe to holes. You should live with such a gentleman until old age. I would like to hope that you have learned how to understand that a man loves you. Nearby is a beloved, sincerely loving person.