System-vector psychology. How to keep the man you love by your side?

Today is the age of speed and, unfortunately, not only in technology. Relationships also happen literally at the speed of sound: a few months can pass from falling in love to breaking up. And so I want real happiness, joy, love. To live soul to soul and die on the same day. How can you keep a man? Conquer him, captivate him? This is a task in a million. And only very smart women cope with it.

• Why is it so hard to keep the right man today? Why does a relationship, as soon as it starts, immediately break?
• Why you should not keep a man with a child, sex or delicious food? Why not just rely on it?
• How to fall in love and keep a man for life?

Women's happiness often rests on men's shoulders. And this is where problems arise. We have, as in the song, “according to statistics, there are nine guys for ten girls.” That is, you have to fight for a free guy. To win, to keep a man is not easy.

How to do it?

Many people think that it's all about beauty - they rush headlong into fitness, spend all their time in beauty salons. Others are sure that a man can be attracted by delicious food and children. Still others focus on the development of their own mind and talent.

But there is no single answer - because today, in the modern world, in order to keep a man nearby, you need to know exactly modern secrets. Yes, men are different.

Why is it so hard to keep the man you love?

Why is everything so difficult today? Why can't we live the way we used to? This question is often asked by girls who cannot even start a first relationship. Sitting at home by the window, they listen to the stories of their mothers and grandmothers about how easily and simply those in their youth found themselves guys who had just returned from the army. They didn't even have to think about how to keep the man. At the age of 20, everyone jumped out to get married, give birth to children, build a future. And now it's not like that.

Now really “everything is wrong”, but you should not be so categorical. And in the past, not everything was as good as it seems to some of us. Not every girl got the man of her dreams, the vast majority agreed to the best option from their inner circle. If you understand it critically, then today it is just much easier and easier to find a man, win and keep him. Through the Internet, you can find a mate even in another area, even in another city, even across the ocean. There are no restrictions, the main thing is that people like each other.

However, in fact one drawback in modern relations. And he is significant. This is their speed. Actually, today the whole world is very fast, literally fleeting. We are all running somewhere, doing everything on the go, striving for development. And this is reflected in relationships in the first place: no one wants to invest, no one is patient. After the first quarrel, a man has the thought “oh, come on, I’ll find another, I don’t need these problems.” Quick sex leads to a very rapid cooling of feelings. Couples are breaking up more and more often, not even reaching those sad 3 years. It feels like yes you need to hold a man, make an effort, do something. And again, it will be a big mistake to look back and take from past generations, as they did.

You can keep a man as a child! But why?

Of course, women have always had little tricks they use. For example, keeping a man a child is perhaps the most ancient invention of the most enterprising among us. The beloved “from the submarine” will not go anywhere, if there is already a pregnancy. Will have to get married. Another option is to keep a man with sex.

There are a lot of options, but they are all hopelessly outdated. It used to be embarrassing and terrible to leave a girl with a belly, but today it is in the order of things. Yes, we are not even talking about just quitting - he will help, pay alimony, but it will not work to keep a man near him in this way.

The exclusivity of sex no longer plays the role that it used to. Pornography was banned, it was a shame to go beyond what was accepted. Today, the boundaries of acceptability in sex have greatly increased, literally anything is possible - even on a chandelier, even in the forest. This is no surprise to anyone. Therefore, even thinking about how to keep a man only with sex is not worth it - any other can give him this goodness.

For delicious food, you can go to a good restaurant, and no home-cooked meal can be compared with the dishes prepared by top-class chefs. He can go to football with friends, a good sweater can be bought in a store. It's not like that and it's not. It can't keep a man around. This is too little. It's time to move to the next level of relationships.

You can keep the man you love for the rest of your life

Today, every person needs an understanding of his desires. It seems so easy to understand a man, to accept his sorrows, to rejoice with him. And that's it. In the modern world, where each other is an object of self-interest and a wolf, even just sincere interest attracts a man to a woman. And real participation seems to stick it to her. This is guaranteed to win and keep a man.

But the problem is what is understanding of a man it is no longer possible to provide simple actions. It's complicated. Really difficult.

• You can’t just sit, look into his eyes, listen to his problems at work, and at the same time think about your desires yourself.
• You can’t go to football with him, but at the same time look offended at your broken nails and whine “you don’t pay attention to me, I went with you, and you just look at your field.”
• You can’t imitate an orgasm in sex, moan and squeal, and count dots on the ceiling out of boredom.
• You can’t be quietly offended and wait until he himself thinks that he needs to ask for forgiveness.
• You can’t shout, swing rights, demand attention to yourself, reaching hysteria.
• Etc.

You can keep a man near you only if you really understand his desires. For real, as if these desires are your own.

And the second important point - to keep a man can only desired woman. This is not only a factor of sex, but a combination - the desire to be together, spend time, eat, communicate, work, in a word, be one. Such a woman becomes a guide for her man, a kind of "carrot", behind which he goes to development, accomplishments, achievements.

If a woman understands her beloved, and is also a desirable object for him, then it does not even occur to her that a man needs to be kept near her. He and she - always hold each other due to mutual attraction. By the way, in such relations everything else is attached:

• delicious food is prepared with pleasure (not to keep a man after dinner, but to make him pleasant), sweaters are knitted and much more,
• there are joint hobbies, but not through violence against oneself, but through real interest,
• sexual relations become truly pleasurable,
• etc