How to close your thoughts. Thought control methods. Why control your thoughts

Recently, quite often the question arises of separating one's own thoughts from those of others, whether they are introduced or read from a common (and ultimately) information field. Unfortunately, in addition to the long-spread slogans of patriotism and pop music in the head (there used to be separate songs, now they put on entire players - you take out one song, another one immediately turns on), there are also thrown thought forms about suicide, murders, etc.

Of course, thought forms scattered in space do not have to be negative or destructive, but there have been cases when conscious empaths recorded such clear voice commands as:
-behind the wheel: "Look what tree, you need to urgently drive into it" or "Look, there is a girl with a stroller, do you want to knock down?"
- in the subway: "a good station to die for" or "you need to get out of this country"
- at the airport at passport control: "I'm tired of crowding here with these crusts, I'll have to sew a chip in myself, it's more convenient"
- in the supermarket, packages are scattered on the mental in the form of an artificial feeling of hunger, delicious smells and unnecessary Wishlist + a bunch of barker entities are operating (on the topic:)
Music is constantly playing in my head, especially in the morning. at the same time, music can come from anywhere and not necessarily fashionable / popular (in sessions in such cases we usually find something similar to microphones-speakers on a thin one)

Sometimes you sit and BAM, just out of nowhere it becomes sooo bad in your soul, and such a nasty feeling of guilt that directly burns out from the inside, and thoughts begin to creep into your head, literally: “You are so disgusting, I am disgusting. There is such grief in the family, but you have no emotions ... I have no emotions, I'm terrible. Where is your guilt, do you think it's not your fault? Yes, all of you are to blame for this .... I am to blame for this ... I am disgusting. Why don't you suffer? After all, it is normal to suffer in such situations ... and really, why am I not suffering? You're just an insensitive geek...yes, I'm just an insensitive geek. People like you don't deserve life...I don't deserve life." And all these feelings just come crashing down on me. And at some point I say to myself: “STOP, where do I get these feelings, I really have nothing to experience them from. Yeah, these feelings come from these thoughts, but I never think like that, I have no reason to think like that, these are not my thoughts. After I realize this, it becomes wildly funny to me, and I say: “No guys, this will not work for you! I forbid you to do this!” And everything passes instantly.

To train intuition and distinguish "mine / not mine", it is advised to track and listen to your feelings during the appearance of thoughts that give rise to distrust or strange emotions in you. If the sensations are not comfortable, suspicious, then it is unlikely that your thought is, although, of course, much depends on the settings of the receiver (brain).

The same applies to the destructive shades of thought forms, as well as everything that goes against your principles or decisions.

Q: Recently, I began to distinguish between different thoughts, their vibrations, by the reaction of the physical body to them. For example, if I move through the body with the focus of attention, I feel something like energy pressure. And it seems to me that the reactions of the body to "bad" and "good" thoughts are noticeably different. And so I try to keep high-vibration thoughts near me. Is it such a transformation, or is it not connected with anything, but it just exists, and I simply began to notice it, to realize it?

A: Well, the transformation as such goes on constantly, sometimes slower, sometimes faster, there are sharp jumps, and it seems to be stagnation... Another thing is that the specifics of human perception is such that too slow processes seem to a person to be something permanent, but too fast - a sharp jump. Thoughts are easy to distinguish from each other by the quality of vibrations by the reaction of the physical or, in extreme cases, the etheric bodies. If you feel that something is shrinking inside you, up to the physical contraction of some muscle group, this means that the consciousness does not accept some thought or other vibration, it resists it.

Since the body is a single structure, any impact on it from the outside, one way or another, directly or indirectly, but will inevitably affect all bodies without exception, both dense and subtle. And if you trust the reaction of the body to this or that thought more, learn to notice such reactions and reckon with them, then you can find that the physical body begins to conduct vibrations from higher planes better and better, and this is often called the "wisdom of the body." The simplest physical response to external vibration is contraction and relaxation of a muscle group. People have generally accepted reactions, but there are also purely individual characteristics of such reactions. This is a whole science that you can master and adapt to your personal needs. All this works very simply, if the basic principle is understood: that physiology and muscular reactions are controlled by subtle bodies, and ultimately by the soul.

How to learn to determine which of your feelings / thoughts / emotions are ours and what is not?

To begin with, think about whether there has already been a similar situation and a certain reaction to a particular situation or person. Then think about where and what we did wrong, where we behaved in a certain way, which caused problems / discomfort. Try to find a part of our own body that reacts (may start to whine, hurt, cause discomfort, burn, chill, it is expressed differently for everyone) when we think about this situation/s or person/people. Remove it from yourself.

When we disassemble all this, find and remove it, then the impact of any kind is automatically removed, because. we begin to go through the lesson and come to understand why this is happening. To some extent, we become inaccessible to those who influence us (teachers). we begin to vibrate / sound at other frequencies and fall into a spectrum in which we are inaccessible to them, they simply do not “see” us.

It happens that we have a small thought, it is unpleasant for us, but we cannot get rid of it, here we need to understand whether this soap is ours or not, especially if it is intrusive and every time / moment we wind ourselves up and wind up, worrying, worrying. As a result, we can drive ourselves into a hysterical state, simply "for nothing." Usually, this clings to a trifle that is in us, and then we ourselves make an elephant out of a fly. But this, again, concerns the fact that our attention is drawn to this trifle so that we eliminate this weakness.

Naturally, if we clearly monitor and control our actions, thoughts, emotions, learn to stop the internal dialogue, then everything will become much easier and more obvious.

But this requires inner readiness, the desire of the person himself to learn this, faith in his own strength, and perseverance. At first it is always difficult, but this does not mean impossible, it means that you are on the right path to understanding yourself.

One of the most important points in the lessons of the Earth is gaining control over thoughts, but what to do if thoughts constantly climb into the head from the information field?

If you thought about something, but do not want the thought to enter into materialization (“come true”), for example, about an illness, or you track this thought as not your own, thrown, put a bold red cross on this thought or image. It doesn't matter how you got the idea - through the media, friends, evil aliens or from your own thoughts about the eternal, the technique works in all these cases. If the image continues to creep into your head, put a few red crosses in a row. You can also say (mentally or aloud) "I refuse this thought, forbid it to affect my reality and withdraw all my potential from it."

However, you should not immediately blame the system, we accept exactly the vibrations of thought that we are tuned in to, therefore it makes sense to engage in personal informational, energy and emotional hygiene.

1) Technique - cutting
As soon as you feel that a negative thought has crept into your mind, just cut it off. No need to analyze it, no need to argue with it, no need to defend against it - just cut it off from yourself, and put something else in its place. And the key principle here is that you must do it immediately, the very moment you feel that very thought.

2) Technique - Label (which we stick to something)
This technique is different from the first. It lies in the fact that instead of getting rid of, cutting off this thought, we move away from it and observe from the side. We don't let it take over us. You may say to yourself, “What is happening to me?” - now such and such a thought came to me, but you already call it in quotation marks, thereby determining its place. Negative thoughts have power over you only if you react to them.

3) Technique - Exaggeration
Once you have discovered a negative thought in yourself, you must exaggerate it to the point of absurdity. The key here is to make it funny. You have to catch yourself in a negative thought and understand that the mind is a great deceiver. You might be thinking, “I can’t knock on the door and sell the product, so what can I do, maybe I will call, or I will go to this person and open the door, and suddenly a mechanical fist will appear from there, and some robot will come out and crack me with all their strength, and then a crowd of people will come running with water and start pouring water on me. back in my office and all the staff will put up signs saying "You're an idiot, why are you back?" It's absurd, but that's what helps to take away the power of a negative thought. Because negative thoughts have power over you only if you react to them.

4) Technique - Confrontation
Everything that a negative thought tells us, we must turn into its complete opposite. As soon as the thought "I will not be able to make a deal" comes to you, you must put in its place a thought that is completely contrary to it. That is, "I will definitely be able to make a deal." If the thought “I will never be able to achieve success” comes to you, you should immediately respond with the complete opposite, and say to yourself “I will definitely achieve tremendous success.” As soon as the thought comes, "I'm good for nothing, I'm not capable of anything," you say to yourself, "I'm capable of everything, I'm a very unusual person." It is absolutely impossible to think about the negative and the positive at the same time, consciousness is able to think about one thing at the same time. If you drop the negative thought out of it and put in a positive one, you deprive the negative thought of its power.

Getting rid of negative thoughts in practice, how to apply techniques.

You can try to work with them in the same way as a boxer boxing with his opponent. The next time a negative thought comes to you, you can first hit it with the first technique, then a couple of second ones, or maybe two hits with the third, and then add the fourth. You can experiment with these techniques and choose the one that suits you. Some people like it, some others like it. Most importantly, don't let the great deceiver control you. Those who practice the power of consciousness must learn to control their mind.

UPD from 09/10/17 comments:

Especially now, when the space has become as if plastic and to attract some filth into your life - as if there is nothing to do.
If I have such thoughts, then I usually imagine it as a transparent cloud and disperse it or pierce it like a soap bubble and instead form a thought form that is reversed in content.
I also noticed that from a computer, TV, such thought forms often overcome. Some are very scary. For example, I read the news. They write about the trial of girls - live-bearers who tortured and killed animals. I read and forgot. After some time, a cat jumps on the table and for no reason at all a thought comes to mind: "What will happen if you cut his eye with a blade?" and straight rolls desire even some of this action. Where is this from? I am frightened even by this terrible thought, because. this is not even close to my thoughtform and it is immediately clear. I take it away. Everything is back to normal again. After that, I think about what flies in our space. After all, there are people in whom it settles. The more a person is open and unconscious, the easier it is for any filth to stick to him.
In general, sometimes I even see how this stream is pouring from the computer and TV, especially from the programs of Channel 1 and Russia, such as "Let them talk" or "Evening with V. Solovyov." If for some time the TV set was turned on on these programs, then the feeling later that a cistern of gomna was poured into the room from the TV (sorry). That's why I never watch such TV programs. Then you have to come to yourself and clean your space.
I also noticed that in the bedroom, where there is no TV, sleep is much better. You get more rest, sleep better and recover faster. As soon as you drag it there, everything becomes uncomfortable. You fall asleep with difficulty, uncomfortable, in the morning you get up nervous and twisted, not restored and not rested. As soon as you remove the telly from there, after 2-3 days sleep and rest are restored.

What technique suits you best?
What thought-forms do you now notice in space?

One of the most important abilities for the health and success of a person is the ability to stop the flow of thoughts at the first desire. The first logical question is: why is it so important to stop thoughts. There are many reasons to stop uncontrolled and chaotic movement, spontaneous images and emotions.

But I will talk about what is important in this for me and what I believed in practice.

For those who know why it is important to regulate the flow of thoughts, but do not know how to stop thoughts, you can start reading right away from the second part of WAYS TO STOP THOUGHTS.

My reasons for stopping the flow of thoughts

1 . An endless stream of thoughts causes sharp and transient, and sometimes protracted emotional swings, which leads to nervous stress, and subsequently to other pathologies.

2. There is practically no chance to make the right decision when the brain is in a fever with thoughts, and it becomes almost impossible to think out a thought thoroughly.

It sounds beautiful, mysterious, and most importantly intimidating. But as an inquisitive person personally, I would ask " how and why does it happen».

Thoughts and reactions

Each thought leads to the appearance of an emotional reaction, which subsequently manifests itself on the physical level. I think everyone knows about a simple experiment with a lemon, or rather with thoughts about it.

Think about the fact that you are chewing a lemon and you will feel how salivation rises, you want to swallow or spit out the excess.

The same thing happens with thoughts “about the other”! And the deeper and longer the reflection, the more vivid and noticeable the reactions become.

It is worth thinking about a situation or a person that causes discomfort, the next thought, association, memory appears, entailing a desire to act in a way that was not necessary in principle before. There is a certain enthusiasm for the idea, based on the created emotional background.

There is a layering of some thoughts on others along with their emotional background, which can lead to actions.

It's called "getting hot." The most common example of the layering of emotions due to the inability to stop thoughts, which everyone as a participant or observer has encountered, is a conflict at work (or any other team), after which harshness towards relatives or friends is manifested or simply felt (or the situation is vice versa) .

Stop thinking - improve your energy

There is also an energy component of the problem with a continuous stream of negative thoughts. I think everyone knows or just met a person who seems to “glow with happiness”, attractive, like the “sun” - these are people living on high vibrations.

Every thought, however, like every word (letter) has its own vibrations. Vibrations can be high and low, and the higher the level of vibration, the better it is for health and other aspects of human life.

A person with a higher vibration level, if we calculate the average over a long period, is less prone to diseases, attracts people more strongly, and is often more successful than a person living on low vibrations (I will return to this in more detail in future articles). Thus, the flow of thoughts can affect health, and here the point is not that thoughts materialize, it is absolutely not necessary to think in a negative way about the state of your body!

Finding the right solution is easier if you stop thinking

In a normal state, a person sees 1-3 ways to solve a problem, how to react to it. In a state of feverish thought flow, the possible reactions become many times greater.

The solution to any problem is a path, not a single yes or no solution, as we prefer to think. On this path there are always key points (more or less significant) at which we react. At a minimum, it is “to go further or not” in a given direction. Actually more questions!

Being in a calm state, all the decision-making functions at these points are performed by my “computer” in my head. If you are currently reading this article, then you are an active Internet user, so I will give an appropriate example.

How the computer died, which could not "stop thoughts"

Let's take a medium-sized computer as an example. And, believe me, I flattered us, people, because with the power of our internal computer and the conscious processing of information, all thought processes, everything is not so good with us! 🙂

♦ We first open 1-2 sites related to some topic of interest - these will be our 1-2 main thoughts.

♦ Now the decision points: click on the page of the first site, without making any gaps (and our brain works non-stop) on all the links that are there. Then go to any of the open pages and click on the links you like there.

♦ We repeat this several times, well, if the computer does not get a "brain explosion" from so many simultaneous and non-stop actions, and does not start to puff, resist and try to "stop thoughts" ... Well, and squeak from viruses.

♦ Viruses can be compared to strong negative emotions that will lead to actions that harm the person himself.

We look at what we have with such a “stream of thoughts”:

1. There are many open windows - a huge flow of information (thoughts in our case) that needs to be analyzed and selected. Those. we still don’t have a solution at the moment, but we know that there is still a lot to learn!

2. If you scroll through all the pages opened in such a chaotic way, it turns out that even at first glance, far from all open pages relate to the issue of interest to us, moreover (!) Of the necessary pages, most likely, not even half! The chaotic movement of thoughts and emotions leads to the same.

3. Some sites open a new link in the same window, which reduces the number of open windows, and this happens with the flow of thoughts. This is comparable to diving into any thought more deeply. But what does this give us? We are generally moving away from the question asked - we are moving away from the real original problem!

Outcome: Let's say your computer withstood a 15-minute attack, coped with honor and did not even suffer physical and mental injuries in the form of viruses. Honor and praise to him! 🙂 But without closing all these windows, how many more windows can be opened? But life does not consist of one problem, which means that something else will have to be discovered. And again, our "weak kid" will puff, boil and fight with the flow of information. Yes, and 15 minutes is too weak a problem. The chaotic movement of thoughts during emotional "rabies" can last much longer.

What are we left with, the owners of a “computer” unable to resist and “stop thoughts” if it is still working and a system reinstallation is not required due to viruses?

Result: Stress, a lot of information, understanding that it turns out that you don’t know anything at all and you need to study everything in more detail and only then draw conclusions (well, I’m talking about more advanced “users” of the brain who don’t want to take the first information that comes across 😉).

What We Didn't Get (if we consider all the information currently open): a simple, correct and understandable solution to the specified request! It turns out that all the activity to find the right answer to the question did not bring any benefit and did not bring it closer to the solution! But this is the most simplified example of how the flow of thoughts and emotions, the inability to stop thoughts leads to a dead end.

If you have read up to this point and realized the need to stop the chaotic movement of thoughts and regulate the flow, or realized the need to stop thoughts and simply moved your eyes to specific recommendations, it's time to move on to them.

Ways to stop thoughts

♦ At the moments when my brain “boils” and I feel that my thoughts are becoming chaotic and negative, I begin to repeat one of the pre-prepared phrases: I love you Universe, Universe you are beautiful, I wish everyone happiness, love and thank you Universe.

♦ There is a phrase that can be applied to any situation, including to stop thoughts, I call it “failsafe”: forgive me i love you thank you. Despite the explicit appeal to "you / you", it is not necessary to use it in relation to a person.

♦ Sometimes I read a prayer that comes to mind, most often the prayer is the Lord's Prayer. And although the flow of thoughts decreases already in the first minutes, the repetition of a phrase or the reading of a prayer to stop thoughts should be repeated and emotional, but not aggressive. Phrases, in principle, can be anything, and there can even be several phrases, but for me it is much easier when it is short and clear.

♦ It can be just sounds (such as a long “oomm”).

I was once asked by a close person: “How much to repeat this, so that it becomes good, and this stream of delusional thoughts stops?” The answer is simple - until it becomes good, and when it becomes good, it will be felt in peace and fullness more positive. And the more often such an action is practiced, the easier and faster it will be to achieve results later.

As a result of this action, in order to control and stop the chaotic movement of thoughts, it is possible not only to stop thoughts, but also to slightly (and for some, a lot!) Adjust your energy to a more “higher way”.

Quite effective for me is the way in which I concentrate on a particular action. It is very simple, for example, to count your breath.

While inhaling, I count to 4, holding my breath - 2, exhaling - 4, holding before the next breath - 2. All my attention is focused on this action, I am completely focused on this process and the chaotic movement of thoughts stops.

I never know how long I continue to breathe in this way, but the flow of thoughts is reduced already in the first 5-6 repetitions, and about 10-15 minutes completely changes the format of my perception of the problem. You can use another rhythm, but this one is acceptable for me.

You can concentrate on anything to regulate the flow of thoughts.: rubbing cream on the body, sweeping the floor, counting one's pulse, looking at a spot of paint on a piece of paper, or any other action.

For myself, I know: it is important for me that the action is not new to me, and if it is associated with movement, then it should be in the same rhythm - it’s easier for me to concentrate. Close and continuous study of any subject or action will help stop thoughts and correct the emotional background.

I use this method more often to exterminate intrusive thoughts, and not just to stop thoughts that are trying to fight among themselves. Mentally, I find myself in my head and imagine how I throw out all unnecessary garbage, all thoughts from there. First, in order to "disperse", I tell them: "Come on, let's get out!" Clinging, I throw out without malice (they are mine, why be angry with them 🙂), but with a firm hand - let them know who is the boss in the "house"!

My choice is "throw away", but thoughts can be erased with an eraser or a rag. It is better to close your eyes so as not to be distracted by foreign objects, but to calmly normalize the chaotic movement and stop the flow of useless and destructive thoughts.

The way to stop thoughts and calm the chaotic movement depends on the person himself. Everyone chooses their own convenient option to stop thoughts, not to let them go into an emotional state that prevents you from being happy!

Very often a person notices that he does not think about what he wants. It may well be someone else's thoughts! There is a way to eliminate distracting or disturbing thoughts!

How and why are some people able to mentally influence others?

Human thoughts are waves¹ that the brain generates, and this is confirmed by scientific research. Naturally, they are not contained in the head: thoughts fly out into the surrounding space and hover in the information space just like radio waves or, for example, a Wi-Fi signal do.

Some extrasensory abilities are based on this: telepathy, telekinesis, empathy and others.

Thanks to the ability to concentrate and direct the flow of thoughts, you can control reality.

To a certain extent, people constantly catch ideas and other people's thoughts from space. In many cases they take them for their own - this is due to the person's weak awareness².

But sometimes situations arise when completely inadequate situations of thoughts and emotions appear in the head. Often they make it very difficult to concentrate on work and their lives, and sometimes even threaten our safety.

There are two reasons for this:

• accidental penetration of someone else's thought from the surrounding space;

This happens, and it usually goes away after a while, especially if the person does not attach great importance to this thought.

• directed negative influence from the ill-wisher.

Sometimes in this way there is an impact with a specific purpose. Someone may unconsciously evoke this thought because of their envy, hatred, etc. But it is also used to deliberately bring down a person and sow fear and confusion in him.

An easy way to eliminate other people's thoughts

If you notice that a thought or emotion has visited you that is completely inappropriate for the situation, or you simply feel that this is not a product of your consciousness, you can proceed according to the following scheme.

1. The practitioner closes his eyes, calms down and throws out of his head all thoughts, except for the one that needs to be got rid of.

2. He creates within himself a firm intention to dispel this accidental or intentional foreign influence.

3. Holding attention in this intention, the person with his right hand circles around his head 7 times counterclockwise.

4. He imagines that he has grasped someone else's thought and clenching his hand into a fist; then the practitioner abruptly throws it away from him, unclenching his hand.

5. A person imagines how this thought in the form of a lump of transparent energy disappears into space. He turns his attention to his current affairs or some other idea.

Within 10 minutes, other people's thoughts will stop appearing and distracting you.

This method of psychological protection is great for getting rid of doubts and insecurities before some important things!

Notes and feature articles for a deeper understanding of the material

¹ A wave is a change in a certain set of physical quantities (characteristics of a certain physical field or material environment), which is able to move, moving away from the place of their occurrence, or to fluctuate within limited areas of space (

How to get rid of bad thoughts. How to learn to control your thoughts with panic and depression. Thought Control Technique"White Room". If you do not know how to manage your thoughts, this material is for you.

Why control your thoughts?

Ability to control your thoughts- an important skill to control many conditions, ranging from panic and depression to anger and bouts of self-denial.

"He who controls his thoughts controls his life." The Psychologist of Happiness.

Control and management of your thoughts, as you will understand further, is not at all blocking and denying your mental judgments. The practice of thought control is practice.

Mindfulness is the key to controlling thoughts and managing emotions.

Evaluative thoughts often serve as a trigger for many emotional states:

• "I'm fat and no one needs me!" and now it's knocking at your house.

• “I probably have an incurable disease and will die soon?” - welcome, !

• “He shouldn’t do this to me! Never!" - a broken cup on the floor and hands shaking from.

Do you want to learn how to manage your thoughts? Yes? Right? What for?

The practice of observing thoughts "White Room"

In this beneficial mindfulness exercise, you will observe your mind at work, imagining that it is a white room through which thoughts pass.

You can perform it in any quiet place, sitting or lying down.

Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths in and out. Relax your body with one of the relaxation methods that are comfortable for you.

Breathe slowly and evenly throughout this exercise.

Imagine that you are in a medium sized white room with two doors.

Imagine that your thoughts float through a white room and leave it forever.

Thoughts enter through one door and leave through another.

As soon as a thought appears, concentrate on it and try to categorize or non-judgmental.

Consider each thought carefully, with curiosity and compassion, until it is gone.

Don't try to analyze it, just note if it's evaluative or not.

Don't challenge it, don't try to believe or disbelieve in it.

Just be aware that this is a thought, a brief moment of your brain activity, an occasional visitor to your white room.

Beware of thoughts that you have categorized as evaluative. They will try to take possession of you, to force you to accept the assessment.

What is the point of this thought control exercise?

The point of this exercise is to notice how "sticky" evaluative thoughts are - how they get stuck in your mind and how difficult it is to get rid of them.

You will determine that a thought is painful and judgmental by how long it stays in the white room, or by whether you begin to feel any emotion about it.

Try to constantly maintain even breathing, keep a clear image of the white room and doors, watch thoughts and classify them.

Remember! The thought is not you! A thought is just a thought!

You are much more than your thoughts. You are the person who creates the white room through which thoughts are allowed to pass. You have a million of them, they leave, but you still remain.

Thought does not require any action from you. Thought does not oblige you to believe in it. The thought is not you!

Just watch the thoughts pass through the white room. Let them live their short life and tell yourself that they have a right to exist, even estimated ones.

Just acknowledge your thoughts, let them go when the time comes, and get ready to meet new ones one by one.

Continue this practice until you feel that you have truly distanced yourself from your thoughts. Do it until even evaluative thoughts begin to pass through the white room without lingering.

It's hard to live a positive life surrounded by negative people.

Dealing with negativity can be tantamount to making life difficult for yourself. At my last job, I had a colleague with constant negative energy, and she poured all this on me on a daily basis. In our conversations, she constantly complained about everything - about the work process, about friends, about health, or about anything else that she could think of at the moment of the conversation. She was constantly cynical about other people, doubting their intentions, and judging them very harshly. The conversations were unpleasant and exhausting.

So, protection from negative energy, 7 effective steps:

How to cleanse yourself of negativity? Set Communication Boundaries

It is difficult to deal with negative people who are mired in their problems and cannot focus on solving them. They want to involve people from the outside in their 24/7 self-pity holiday, it boosts their self-esteem, because someone empathizes with them. You understand that you are simply forced to listen to their complaints, but you cannot do anything about it, because. don't want to come off as callous or rude. But you have to keep a clear line between being a vest and getting sucked into their emotional drama.

You can avoid this drama by setting limits and stepping back when necessary. Imagine if a person smoked cigarettes one after another, would you sit next to him all day and inhale second-hand smoke? Of course not, you would leave. The situation is similar with complaints, when you realize that you have already listened to them enough, step back for a while to restore your energy level.

If you can't move away any time soon, another great way to set boundaries is to ask the negative person how they plan to solve the problem they're complaining about.

Usually, after this question, negative people calm down or move the conversation into a more harmonious direction, at least temporarily.

How to get rid of negative energy? Don't React - Respond Consciously

In most cases, we overreact to something during a period of emotional overstrain. Usually the reaction is controlled by our ego, it is our human nature.

There is a fraction of a second to choose to react or respond consciously. When you feel angry or agitated, it means that you reacted to a provocation, and did not respond consciously. By answering consciously, you have a sense of balance, and you consider your words.

To recap, when you confront someone with a negative attitude, don't respond with insults, keep them to yourself. Don't forget your dignity and don't stoop to his/her level. As they say, you need to be brave enough to walk away from stupidity with your head held high.

Provide lungs themes for discussions

People's negative attitudes are usually associated with seemingly innocuous questions. For example, one of my friends becomes very difficult to manage when it comes to work. And no matter what I say, he complains about everything to do with work, and when I try to make positive comments, he reacts to them even more sharply. And our conversation becomes very heavy.

In general, if you find yourself in a similar situation, and your interlocutor gets stuck on a topic, understand that perhaps the problem lies very deep inside him, change the topic once and do not touch it again. It's best to move the topic to a discussion of simple things, such as funny memories, personal successes, or other easy topics. Keep the other person in a positive frame of mind.

Focus on solutions, not problems

Where you focus your attention determines your emotional state. Focusing on problems can create negative emotions and prolong stress. But if you shift your attention to actions that can improve the circumstances, there is a sense of self-worth, efficiency and a kind of pride in yourself, which brings with it positive emotions and reduces stress.

The same thing happens with negative people, focusing your thoughts on how difficult and stressful they are only increases the suffering, giving them power over you.

If you stop thinking about how problematic a person is, focus instead on how you can present their behavior in a positive way, choose something for yourself. It is much more profitable to put yourself in the position of managing the situation, this allows you to significantly reduce the amount of stress. Try to find answers and solutions, put yourself in the position of a problem solver, and don't go with the flow.

Maintain a level of emotional detachment from other people's opinions of you.

Maintaining a level of emotional detachment is vital to keeping stress at bay. Don't let negative people (or anyone else) put their problems on your shoulders, this is very important for your emotional health and happiness. The solution to this problem comes down to how you value yourself and how much you believe in yourself.

People who effectively manage their lives, as a rule, they work on the "inner self", i.e. those people who know that success and well-being comes from within.

Negative people usually survive at the expense of others; blaming other people or external circumstances for everything that happens or does not happen in their life.

When your sense of satisfaction or well-being depends on the opinions of others, you are no longer in control of your happiness. Know it. When emotionally strong people feel good about what they've done, they don't let anyone ruin their sense of victory over a new challenge.

In truth, others either underestimate or overestimate you, only you can evaluate your strengths. Remember this. Whether you win or lose, you have invaluable experience. This is important.

Let go of the desire to change other people's negative tendencies

For some people you can help by a good example, but for others it may not. Remember this and you will be able to strike a balance between helping and retreating. If people do not perceive good examples, then step back from your idea to set a person in a positive way. It just won't work.

Resist energy vampires, manipulators, and emotional blackmailers who are desperate to control other people's behavior.

With that said, if your loved one has negative tendencies and you think they will change for the better over time, take off the rose-colored glasses, this will not happen.

If you really want to change it for any good reason, be honest and put all the cards on the table, at least this person will know how you feel and why.

For the most part, although you can't change them, in theory you shouldn't try to. Either you accept the person as he is, or live without him. This may sound a little harsh, but it's true. When you try to change people they often resist, but when you don't try to change them - you support them and give them the freedom to be themselves, they gradually change miraculously. Because the only thing that drives them is how you see them.

Dedicate enough time every day to work on yourself

You should neglect yourself just because others do it. and, if you are forced to live or work with a negative person, make sure you have enough alone time to rest and recover.

Playing the role of the "purposeful rational adult" in the midst of negativity can be very tiring, and if you're not careful, negativity can consume you.

Thoughts of negative people can fill your life even at night when you constantly ask yourself the following questions:

• Am I doing the right thing?
• Am I really that terrible that people talk to me like that?
• I can't believe he did it
• I'm in so much pain

Such thoughts can keep you agonizing for weeks, months, or even years. Unfortunately, sometimes the goal of a negative person is to drive you crazy and will sink to their level so that they are not alone. And since you can't control what they do, it's important to take care of yourself so you can stay in the center of negativity, feeling healthy and empowered when needed.

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Even if you find it difficult to accept the fact that the negative person is you, you need to do so. Sometimes it's your own negativity that hurts you more than anything else.

If your inner critic is eating you up, try to get rid of all the thoughts and thoughts that hurt you, or at least some of them, and you will feel better.

Remember, you don't need negative thoughts.

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