Two steps to revealing femininity: cleansing and filling. A paradoxical way of revealing femininity for strong women How to discover the feminine in yourself

To become a real woman, you need to conjure a lot over yourself. How to open a woman in yourself? How to become a real woman, irresistible and desirable? Let's try together. The development of femininity - It's not an easy path, but it's not difficult either. It is better to dedicate a couple of months to yourself, so that later men devote the rest of their lives to you.

1. Decide on your desires. What do you really want? Maybe your desires are inspired by public opinion, parents or something else. Maybe they are not yours?

For example, almost all women say they want to get married. Just a question - why? - many can not answer. As often happens, a girl wants to make a career, and at the moment she is not at all up to her husband and children, and everyone around asks: “Well, how are you doing, did you get married?” And she is so good: there are fans and attention. But reluctance to get married: why these washing, cleaning, cooking, diapers. Of course, I want it, but not now, later. Decide what you want now.

Can you do this. But the word I can is the priority of men. There should be a slightly different word in your vocabulary. Feel the difference: “I want to get married”, “I want to look my best”, “I want to be successful and happy” and “I can get married”, “I can look my best”, “I can be successful” .

Be guided primarily by emotions, not by reason.

2. Cleanliness and order in the house and in the body. Throw away all memories of the past more often, especially if it is unpleasant. Keep your body and mind clean. Usually, the chaos in the house indicates that not everything is in order in your life: there are no specific goals and desires. Or there are so many that you don't know what to do.

Do not feel sorry for old things, unnecessary photos. Don't ever save up. Usually such things and objects with the aim of "someday come in handy" are never needed. Sell ​​or give to someone. The house must be updated, as are your thoughts and feelings. Throwing something away will make you feel relieved.

3. Real woman speaks softly and gently, without aggression. Although life is so arranged that it is very difficult to be affectionate and gentle, insisting on your own. Although with this style of communication you don’t have to insist - everything will work out by itself.

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How to become feminine through your hobbies? We reveal the psychological secrets of women's hobbies.

Femininity is not limited to clothes or looks. Femininity is something more, it is the ability to keep oneself, the ability to be light and flirtatious, a special manner of behavior and thinking.

How to discover and develop feminine charms in yourself, how not only to demonstrate, but also to feel a true woman in yourself? We bring to your attention several options for hobbies, thanks to which you can make the article more feminine.

Femininity and creativity

Due to the subtle mental organization, a special hormonal background, a woman by nature is prone to the manifestation of creativity. Creativity develops truly feminine. Very often we forget about it, plunging into the routine of gray everyday life, work, household chores. This is how our feminine charm gradually disappears.

To develop femininity, experts in many fields advise their clients to do something that is associated with the creation of any things with their own hands: drawing, modeling, creating jewelry, sewing toys or clothes, etc.

Interestingly, since ancient times, women have been respectful of. It was believed that such jewelry helps to "take away" the evil eye of ill-wishers from their beauty and femininity, thereby protecting their owner.

In addition to this creative hobby:

• beneficial effect on women's health;
• lets a woman release accumulated energy outside and be filled with new;
• helps unleash your own creativity.

A few words about health. In medicine and psychology, the impact of certain types of needlework on the psyche and human health has long been known. This is due to the fact that our palms and fingers are concentrated great amount nerve endings that are directly connected to certain brain structures. For example:

• for headaches and migraines embroidery helps a lot;
• knitting helps prevent depressive states;
• many types of needlework (, work with small details) develop fine motor skills and speech centers brain;
• woodworking is useful for diseases of the stomach, kidneys and liver;
• almost all types of needlework stabilize nervous system reduce the risk of developing psychiatric disorders.

Therefore, all the crafts that you create with your own hands with passion and pleasure increase your feminine strength and health, help you internally set yourself on the road to the charm of femininity.

Communication as a hobby for revealing femininity

Women are mostly sociable. We can say that communication is a kind of female “hobby”. To maintain a good psychological mood, the fair sex simply needs to share their experiences, receive new emotions from the people around them, gain new information and experience. But how to make communication useful in terms of developing your inner femininity?

Among psychologists specializing in women's practices, the technique of “femininity adoption” is very popular. What is it? It's simple: as they say folk wisdom with whom you will lead, from that you will type.

Find among your surroundings, which you consider an example of femininity. Take a closer look at her: how she behaves, how and what she talks about, what she is fond of, what thoughts and desires prevail in her, etc. Try to establish contact with her, spend time with her more often, adopt a model of her behavior. Most The best way to learn femininity - to find a worthy example to follow.

I would like to emphasize right away that this is not so simple as it seems at first glance. Very often women have many difficulties in communicating with their emphasized feminine girlfriends:

• misunderstanding(“How can she think like that, behave like that, allow herself this, etc.?”);
• outright anger and irritation(“Her quiet voice drives me crazy”, “And what do men find in her?” Etc.);
• resistance to change that you notice in yourself after talking with this woman;
• desire to break all contact with a friend.

However, believe that you will soon understand: communicating with people who are different from us, you gain new experience and, thereby, expand the boundaries of your personality, acquire new qualities, new energy, new emotions, learn to look at the world in a new way.

Let such observation of the manifestations of femininity in other representatives of the fair sex become a kind of hobby for you.

Body control and femininity

The development of femininity is largely associated with the ability to control your body. To manage means to be graceful, smooth, soft in your movements. Comprehending grace and flexibility, we absorb feminine features.

Help you manage your body different kinds active hobby. For example, ballroom or Latin dances, female plastic, yoga. In addition to the fact that you will learn to coordinate your movements, make them smoother, more feminine, eliminate your inner stiffness and insecurity, you will also acquire an important attribute of a true woman - the ability to flirt with your man, attract him.

Since ancient times, it has been believed that dance has a special magic. By the way a woman dances, they judge her temperament, femininity and sexuality, the health of her soul and body. Therefore, no matter what age you are, how many children you have and what size of clothes you wear, because with the help of dance you awaken the feminine in yourself and comprehend the basics of female coquetry.

I hope this article will inspire you to take action, because reading absolutely nothing will change. I know that many women find a million reasons why they cannot afford to cross-stitch or attend classes in female plasticity. No need to come up with reasons - discard all doubts and start experimenting!

Let's say you've made up your mind. You want to change. Want to delve into the feminine path. Become more feminine. And where to start? What medications and what is the schedule for taking?

I love orderly guides to action (a long "male" past is telling :)). In fact, it is really important to see a step-by-step plan, to understand where to strive, what and how. Understand what is stopping you and what lies ahead.

If we are talking about steps towards the goal, then:
1. The first will be the rejection of trousers. Because it changes a lot. Your attitude towards yourself, your image, the flow of energy, the attitude of other people. It often seems like nonsense, but it works. And for me - for almost 3 years (can you imagine? Almost 3 years without trousers!). And the girls, who at first were afraid, and then threw everything away and switched to dresses. And how many letters come from men who are delighted with such changes! Even those whose wives were otherwise perfect, but wore jeans, go crazy with happiness when the wife switches to dresses and skirts. So this is the first step. Minimize the wearing of trousers. At least at home to wear beautiful sundresses to the floor ...

2. We move further along the course "Look like a woman." And here it is worth thinking about the little things female image- accessories, jewelry, scarves (and how beautiful a lady with a scarf on her head instead of a hat looks in winter!). Recently - my husband became interested in Instagram - this is a network where people post their photos. So recently we saw a photo of Tina Kandelaki, a famous woman who came to Grozny. And they invited her on one condition. She had to wear a headscarf. If you could see the number of "likes" under these photos, how many nice words she was told! And how stylish and mysterious she looked in a headscarf! Not only has it not lost its beauty, but it has acquired a special charm. So think about what is not enough in your life - facial care, proper makeup, accessories, shoes?

3. When we already look like a woman, it's time to start acting like a woman. Skirts will kind of help us slow down, 'cause they can't run like that anymore. But it is also important to add smoothness to our lives consciously. Slow down speed. Reduce speed. Start slower to eat, walk, live. Stop rushing and being late. Difficult, especially in metropolitan areas. But probably. If you understand that it is impossible to do everything. And what's important is to do the most important thing first. Everything superfluous will disappear by itself. Everything has its time - in nature and in life. If we run very fast, it will not bring us closer to the goal any faster. Sometimes women grab knowledge about femininity in bulk - they listen to ten lectures a day, but nothing changes. Because speed is not the problem. Need smoothness, immersion. In a feminine way. How fast do you speak? Are you often in a hurry? Do you eat on the run? Do you drink coffee on the way to work? Do you run after buses? Just stop doing it. See, the world won't fall apart. And by the way, if food is cooked in the house on the run, then the relationship develops in the same way - quickly and of poor quality.

4. And then the important thing is proper communication. Find like-minded girls. You can do this on our forum, for example. Communication with women is an exchange of female energy. It is always important and valuable. And not to talk about what kind of husband is a bastard. And about eternity, knowledge, love. About how to get better. Cry sometimes. Sometimes cheer someone up. What female friendship can give you cannot be replaced by anything.

5. Find half an hour a day for yourself. Every day for half an hour, do what you like, what makes you happy. Baths, masks, self-care, books, drawings, dances, songs, needlework - there are many such activities. As many as 85! And it is important to do this every day, increasing your resources.

These are the first five steps towards female happiness. First five. Only the first - but very important.

What can stop us on this path?

1. Wrong communication. If all your girlfriends are embittered feminists, it will be difficult for you. Share it, you'll get it in the head. If you don't share it, where else can you take it? The worst thing for a woman who grows a flower of femininity in herself is to invite pests into the garden. Unfortunate women become the worst pests. Not from evil. They are just unhappy, which means that they can only share this - anger, bile and so on. We only give the world what we have. This does not mean that everyone should be abandoned and changed. Just chat with them on neutral topics. And for close communication - look for like-minded people!

2. Generic scenarios. As much as I’ve been talking about this, it’s hard to change until we see our family ties. And when we see that women in the family have become strong after the grandmother lost her husband in the war, we can already forgive, let go and start Our Life.

3. Excessive craving for achievement. When we try to do everything ourselves. When we are chasing money, career and connections. With feminine qualities, this is practically incompatible. Alas and ah. A woman in this life can get everything through her husband. If she is feminine, she will learn to love and serve. In a feminine way. No manipulation.

4. Misinterpretation. For example - "A man is an unfinished woman" - I often hear this from those who have begun to develop femininity. Since we do them, then without us they are zeros without a stick! We are queens and men are servants! Worst of all possible interpretations. It kills relationships, and therefore femininity is not real. A real woman deepens and strengthens relationships. Because he sees that we are different. No better, no worse. She does not manipulate, but learns to love herself.

5. Irresponsibility. Would you say that responsibility is a masculine quality? Yes, when we talk about being responsible for others. But each of us is responsible for himself. For their actions, thoughts, reactions, attitudes. And often we slip into “I don’t want to decide anything. I'm a girl and I want a dress! It's all sweet and somewhat true. But remembering that true femininity is maturity and wisdom is important. We are responsible for what we do with ourselves and our loved ones. For doing your duty. For what we give to other people, How we treat them.

Here are five hurdles. Basic. Not all. This is what we run into most of the time. And we break...

To prevent this from happening, forewarned is forearmed. You now have a small map of the first steps. What will you do with her? You decide.

Five practices and ten ways from this article will help:

• Let go of the clamps and tensions in the body, cleanse yourself of negativity, start the processes of internal rejuvenation, fill with feminine energies, as well as the energies of joy, happiness, positive and unconditional love.
• Calm down, relax, restore balance in the soul.
• Become more confident as a woman.
• Raise your female self-esteem.
• Form and fix in the subconscious image of a new self.
• Become more seductive and sexy in the eyes of the opposite sex.
• Open and enhance your sensuality.
• Harmonize male and female energies in the body.
• Awaken your inner Goddess, meet and communicate with your Inner Woman;
• make three most cherished wishes so that they come true in the fastest, most comfortable and safest way for you.

Meditation "Awakening the Inner Goddess"

Revealing your potential, and in particular your femininity, is an endless process. Any quality can be revealed or developed in oneself. It's just a matter of time and effort. This small and very easy meditation will help you get in touch with your true femininity, "feed" with female energies, get to know and unite with the inner Goddess. During the practice, you will be able to communicate with your Inner Woman and, if you wish, ask questions of interest regarding what steps should be taken now in order to develop the missing feminine qualities in yourself as quickly and effectively as possible? What exactly should these qualities be?

Even if you don’t get answers to these questions now, in the process of meditation, then later they will definitely come either from the outside world - in the form of specific situations, or you will be drawn to do something that didn’t even cross your mind before, or maybe it’s there will be someone's random remark, after which there will be an "insight", that "yes, this is exactly what I need now" or you will see the answer to your question in a dream. There are many options. The subconscious mind will definitely find a way to communicate all the necessary, at the moment, information.

It is generally not necessary to do this practice every day, but it is desirable to repeat it periodically for best results.

Exercise "Pearl" for the disclosure of femininity.

An exercise that helps to calm down, relax, restore balance in the soul, raise your self-esteem, reveal femininity and sexuality and, as a result, become more attractive to men. This exercise, in order to achieve a sustainable positive effect, it is advisable to do it regularly for a certain time from 21 to 40 days, and maybe longer, until the state of one's own worthiness, uniqueness, value and self-love becomes stable and familiar in everyday life. .

An excerpt from Lana Davis' speech at the Man and Woman 2014 conference

Meditation "Woman Awakening"

This practice will help to release the clamps and tensions in the body, cleanse oneself of negativity, start the processes of internal rejuvenation, fill with female energies, as well as the energies of joy, happiness, positive and unconditional love. And, most importantly, this practice will allow you to meet and unite with your Inner Woman and make three of your most cherished desires so that they come true in the fastest, most comfortable and safe way for you.

An excerpt from Victoria Volevach's speech.

Practice "Integration into a woman".

A practice that helps to open and accept your Inner Woman, your Goddess. This practice, in principle, is very similar to the previous two and aims at accepting oneself as a woman, uniting with one's feminine, raising one's mood, and increasing self-esteem. After completing this practice, you will become more attractive to men, additional production of female hormones will begin, which will positively affect not only your internal state, but also your appearance and health in general. The fact that this practice is strong enough in its impact and effect, you will be convinced almost instantly if you do it before leaving the house. For a good lasting effect, it is better to repeat it periodically.

An excerpt from a webinar by Victoria Volevach.

Practice for the harmonization of masculine and feminine principles.

A small and effective practice that, if done regularly, will help balance the male and female energies in the body. About the masculine and feminine beginnings have been known for a long time and a lot is said. Our whole world is dual. The symbols of the feminine, Yin beginning are the moon, water, earth, and the masculine - fire, air, sun. For normal functioning, the full development of these energies is necessary so that they can interact harmoniously with each other. It is also better to perform this technique daily for a certain time. It is desirable from 21 to 40 days, and maybe more.

An excerpt from the speech of Elena and Yuri Svetlov at the conference "Man and Woman 2014"

What else? 10 ways to develop femininity.

First. Very often we are afraid to express ourselves in a feminine way, because some negative or painful experience of the past is associated with this. It could have been a childhood trauma, a painful love in adolescence, an unsuccessful first marriage or something else. Ask yourself and your subconscious about it. What can be scary or painful for you if you start to show yourself as a woman right now? How to work with the negative experience of the past is described in detail in the articles Emotional cleansing. The Expanded Forgiveness Formula . and How to let go of a negative past.

Second. The next obstacle may be ineffective or false attitudes about women and femininity. For example, in my family, my father was very dismissive of my mother. He always emphasized that he wanted a boy and the word "woman", in our house, was most often used in a pejorative context. Slip phrases like: "What can be expected from a woman?" or "What can be demanded of her? She is a woman and a woman in Africa." and so on in this spirit. Consider what it could be for you. Ask yourself: "What ineffective patterns and attitudes, false beliefs about women and femininity are now preventing you from expressing yourself in your life, in the world, in society in a feminine way?" Perhaps you will see situations in which you made ineffective conclusions about yourself as a woman. Write down any negative beliefs you might have made in these or similar situations. After that, make statements that are directly opposite in meaning and repeat, like affirmations, at any time convenient for you until you feel that they have become part of you, but not less than 40 days in a row. Or write them down on your phone and listen when you eat in transport or at night. If you don’t want to do this, you’re too lazy or you just forget, then there is internal resistance and in order to overcome it, put yourself a reminder on your phone every half hour. And every time you hear it, repeat positive affirmations. Examples of other affirmations aimed at the development of femininity can be found in the article. Affirmations for the development of femininity.

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Third. Next comes the fun part.) A woman blossoms when she begins to love herself and take care of herself and her body. Manicure, pedicure, massage, hair, face and body masks. Only it is better to do this not from the position of "it is necessary", but out of love for yourself. Make a hair mask - praise or mentally say something nice to your hair. Doing a massage - relax, discard all unnecessary thoughts and completely immerse yourself in the sensations of the body. Get maximum physical pleasure from your body. After all, taking care of yourself and taking care of yourself and your body is very interesting and pleasant. Develop your sensibility through physical sensations. Even when you eat, or we can say even more so when you eat, try to fully concentrate on the taste of food and the sensations that you experience. As already mentioned in the article Eating disorder. abdominal brain . Our language is a special organ. It is he who participates in the two most important acts - the absorption of food and making love. Irritation of the tongue gives a person sexual pleasure. That's why it doesn't matter what foods you put in your mouth. The tastier and more aromatic the food, the more it irritates the nerve receptors of the tongue and the more pleasure it delivers. Therefore, train yourself not to be distracted by non-essential activities while eating, such as watching TV, reading, or sitting at the computer. Focus on the sensations and the process of eating will become even more enjoyable. In addition, it will help to throw off a couple of extra kilos, because saturation will begin to occur faster, unless, of course, this is relevant for you.

Fourth. Yoga and dance classes. Yoga, with a properly selected program, very well normalizes the hormonal background and balances the energies in the body. Dancing, especially Arabic, latin, classical and the very same strip dance, well develop flexibility, plasticity, grace, contribute to the production of endorphins, improve mood, give self-confidence. In addition, regular exercise is an elementary care for your health, which is also not unimportant.

Fifth. Creative activities. By creativity here you can understand anything - cooking, drawing, composing music, caring for houseplants, sewing, knitting, and so on. It should be something that brings joy from the process itself, regardless of the result. Result, as such? may not exist at all. You can, for example, connect something, then look at the result, understand that you did something wrong and dissolve it, then start over again. It doesn't matter. What matters is that you enjoyed the process itself.

sixth. Clothing. Skirts, dresses, shoes with heels - it's all feminine and very sexy. There is also such a thing as "female" colors in clothes. About what these colors are, as well as which skirt to choose to look seductive, but not vulgar, you can read in the article What skirt to choose? First date rules

Seventh. Lexicon. It is very important how and what we say. Many women have a habit of referring to themselves in masculine terms. There are also women who use obscenities in their speech. It shouldn't be. No one says that it is necessary to express only the ideal literary language. No, "jargon" can be inserted into speech. With them, she is perceived as more emotional and rich, but it is better to talk about herself in the feminine form "went, came." This "-la" at the end is so sonorous, playful and immediately clear what the WOMAN is saying. You can learn about how the words we pronounce affect our lives from the video "The Magic of Words. About the influence of speech on the events of our life." Also in this video there is a very useful and effective practice, if you repeat it at least periodically, "Step into a new self." With the help of this practice, you can feel at the level of the body what it is like to be the one who has already achieved her goals and lives an "ideal" life, from your point of view. In this exercise, you will be able to communicate with your "future" self and find out what steps you need to take now to achieve this. And you can, at the same time, ask what is stopping you (see points 1 and 2).

Word magic. About the influence of speech on the events of our lives.

An excerpt from the speech of Arina Polyakh at the conference "Revealing Secrets 2.0"

Eighth. Household chores, childcare, comfort in the house. No matter how trite it may seem, but all this also develops femininity and female energies in us. Fill the apartment with pleasant feminine scents. Such as jasmine, rose or ylang-ylang (by the way, the latter is a powerful aphrodisiac, so be careful with it). You can also read about the effect of odors in the article. Aphrodisiac oils and a test for female sexual energy.

Ninth. Food. Nutrition should be healthy, balanced and of high quality. The natural smell of our clean body largely depends on this. In addition, products are also divided into yin and yang. You can learn more about this from the video. Chinese Diet. Secrets of harmony and longevity. It is advisable to remove meat from your diet. If there is absolutely no way without meat, then leave only poultry and fish in your diet. Meat slags the body. By the way, a strong craving for meat products indicates the presence of hidden, repressed aggression in the subconscious. And this is a reason to think.

tenth. And another very joyful item for any woman is shopping and communication with other women. Shopping is very fun and interesting. Try on beautiful things, spin in them in front of the mirror and admire how beautiful you are. Even if you don’t have money right now, go for a walk and just try on whatever you like. Admire yourself, enjoy your reflection in the mirror, arrange a show from this show and a holiday for yourself. In addition, this way you can better understand what things suit you and which do not, find your style, if you have not already done so. After that, sit with a friend in a cafe, chat about all sorts of pleasant little things, drink aromatic coffee with something tasty (yes, yes, yes, in this case healthy lifestyle life can wait a little.

Be windy, light, emotional, cheerful, positive, gentle, affectionate, caring, naive, passionate, be capricious and illogical at times, be a WOMAN, because it's so cool! As they say in the audio mood "affectionate Amazon" Alexander Sviyash.

• I am happy that I was born a woman!
• I came into this world to celebrate my femininity!

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