Teaching a child to kindergarten Komarovsky. When to give the child to kindergarten - Komarovsky answers. Preparing a child for kindergarten

The problem of a kindergarten (to give a child or not to give) sooner or later arises in every family.

And it’s not even that in many cities it’s not so easy to get a ticket to the garden now. The problem is much broader, and it almost does not depend on the level of well-being of the family and on the employment of parents, each of whom has his own experience and his own opinion about the advantages and disadvantages of preschool institutions. So, in principle: to give or not to give? Or maybe it's better to grandmother? Or find a nanny?

Without a doubt, parental decision is largely determined by personal experience. Nevertheless, there are some very definite pluses and minuses in attending a kindergarten, determined not from the point of view of specific fathers and mothers, but from the point of view of science, more precisely, sciences - pedagogy, medicine, psychology, sociology.

Learning to communicate

From the point of view of science in general Kindergarten is unequivocally considered as a positive factor, desirable for a full-fledged upbringing. And one cannot but agree with this: since time immemorial, man has been a collective animal. The art of communicating with other members of the community largely determines the entire human life - from meeting people of the opposite sex with the subsequent creation of a family and ending with industrial relations (employment, career, contacts with superiors, etc.).

The art of communication, especially with peers, is undoubtedly worth learning from childhood - no family, no nannies, no non-working grandmothers can replace a kindergarten.

ARI and immunity

The main disadvantage of visiting a kindergarten is that the child gets sick more often. No one can argue with this, this is confirmed by both parents and medical workers, and this fact is completely obvious. Most diseases are acute infections, most often respiratory. The probability of getting sick with an infectious disease is closely related to the circle of communication - the wider it is, the easier it is to get sick. It is clear that the "home" child communicates less with other people.

The obvious fact of the increase in the frequency of diseases is not at all absolutely negative, as it might seem at first glance.

Let's start with the fact that a number of infectious diseases, more or less easily occurring in childhood (chickenpox, rubella, measles), are a real threat to the health and even life of an adult. And these diseases must be ill in a timely manner. It is very difficult to "find" rubella or chickenpox outside the children's team.

As for colds and acute respiratory infections, the frequency of diseases is not of decisive importance. The fact is that the number of circulating viruses, namely, 99% of respiratory infections are associated with viruses, is not infinite. Each transferred acute respiratory disease ends with the formation of antiviral immunity, reducing the likelihood of the next disease. Epidemics, for example, of influenza and the likelihood of getting sick with the very concept of "kindergarten" are not very connected - we will not catch the disease from children, so dad will "bring" the flu from work.

Viral infections, which the child "does not get sick" in kindergarten, will definitely make themselves felt at school.

"Hothouse" kids

What is fundamentally different is not the frequency with which the child suffers from viral infections, but how they proceed.

If the course of acute respiratory infections is constantly accompanied by the occurrence of complications, then the kindergarten has absolutely nothing to do with it. The immunity of the child himself, living conditions, treatment tactics are important, but the likelihood that inflammation of the lungs will or will not occur against the background of a cold is absolutely not related to the fact that the child attends or does not attend kindergarten.

Summarizing the theme of "increased kindergarten morbidity", we note the following.

Many parents tend to associate the illnesses of their own children with the fact that the "most important" rules of care are violated in kindergarten - they were not dressed properly, the child was sitting on a cold floor, there was a draft in the room, etc. From this point of view, kindergarten is a very convenient thing - you can always blame him for your own inadequacy as an educator. Creating greenhouse conditions for a child is the norm, supported by numerous instructions on how to properly dress, bathe, feed and walk. As a result, drafts, walking barefoot, cold water, lack of a hat, etc. are "unacceptable phenomena." But did the indignant parents really hope that the child would never encounter all this in his life?

The conclusions are obvious - firstly, "there is nothing to blame on the mirror ...", and secondly: a child should be prepared for kindergarten in advance - with adequate education from the moment of birth.

It's better to wait with work.

The age at which a child first enters kindergarten is a particular problem. Let's leave the debate on when it is better to do it (in a year or in three), to teachers. The doctor in such a situation is more concerned about the question - where will the mother be at the time when the child goes to kindergarten?

The following situation is absolutely typical: on the first of September, the child goes to kindergarten for the first time and on the same day, the mother goes to work after maternity leave. A week later, which is quite natural, the baby "earns" his first kindergarten acute respiratory disease, and his mother - the first leave to care for a sick child.

The following is unequivocal: no matter how wonderful the kindergarten is, no matter how excellent the child's health, he will still get sick more often at first.

Therefore, it is very desirable that, sending the child to kindergarten, the mother remains at home. It is very important to be able to leave the child at home at the slightest ailment (a slight runny nose, cough), without waiting for the progression of the disease and without exposing other children to the risk of infection. And how good it is not to think about sick leave and upcoming conversations with superiors.

A very significant point is the time of the year when it is supposed to start attending kindergarten. Obviously, it is better not to do this from October to April - the active circulation of respiratory viruses significantly increases the risk of diseases and, accordingly, lengthens the adaptation time.

Is your child special?

A number of medical issues are directly related to employees of preschool institutions. Teachers, as a rule, have their own views on how children should be fed, dressed and tempered. For the most part, these views correspond to the ideas of our society that it is good for children - to feed at any cost and, most importantly, not to let them freeze.

If you parents are aware that a child should not be forced to eat, if you understand that overheating and sweating are more likely to lead to a cold than hypothermia, take the trouble to bring this to the attention of the teacher. It is very important that Maria Ivanovna does not feel guilty about Petya refusing to eat the soup.

No one is immune from injuries and sudden illnesses. With this in mind, kindergarten employees must have information about what diseases the child had, about all cases of drug and food allergies. It is highly desirable to be able to urgently contact parents if necessary.

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BACKGROUND

The very first kindergarten in the world was opened in 1837 by the German teacher Friedrich Wilhelm August Froebel in the city of Bad Blankenburg. And in Russia, the first kindergartens appeared in Moscow in the 70s of the XIX century. They were paid, and only since 1900 the Ministry of Public Education began to subsidize "classes with children of preschool age."

The current crisis with a shortage of places in kindergartens is due, among other things, to the fact that since 1990, due to the reprofiling and privatization of kindergartens, the number of kindergartens has almost halved in the country - from 88 thousand to 46 thousand.

It is better to pass the medical examination in advance

Each child, before getting into one or another group of kindergarten, must necessarily pass a medical commission. This is the concern of the parents.

Do not leave worries about passing a medical examination for the last days, especially in August. At this time, and so in children's clinics, there is nowhere for an apple to fall. And if it turns out that one of the needed doctors is on vacation, things will slow down altogether. It is especially rare when all doctors work on the same day and at a convenient time for you. As a rule, during a medical examination, a visit to the local pediatrician is mandatory, which will give a referral to other specialists: a neurologist, otolaryngologist, dentist, surgeon, ophthalmologist, orthopedist.

Therefore, it is best to plan ahead for the medical examination. But do not rush with the tests - after all, the results of some of them are valid for no more than a month. Therefore, it is best to pass tests no earlier than two weeks before entering kindergarten.

Kindergarten is a very important stage in a child's life. When to send a child to kindergarten, parents decide, depending on the well-being of the family, the employment of mom and dad at work, the presence of grandparents. But for a long time there is no question whether it is necessary to do this at all. Undoubtedly, the kindergarten is useful for the child. He teaches the baby to adapt, make contacts, communicate, live in society. Without these skills, it will be difficult for a child to go to first grade and live on.

However, in connection with visiting the kindergarten, moms and dads have a lot of questions that primarily relate to the health of the baby. Authoritative pediatrician Evgeny Komarovsky tells how to prepare a child for a crucial period in his life, how to overcome the difficulties of the first time and maintain children's health.

At what age is it better to give a child

This issue needs to be resolved only within the family. Usually, babies are brought to kindergarten at the age of 1 to 3 years, less often at an older age. Many kindergartens in Lately introduced an unspoken restriction - children under one and a half years old are not accepted. If there is any doubt whether it is time for the child to go to kindergarten, it is better to consult with teachers, educators, and a child psychologist. They will tell you if the baby is ready for life in a large team.

Doctors are interested in something else - what will mother do when she takes her child to kindergarten. If she decided to go to work on the same day, this is not the best decision, Komarovsky believes. Firstly, the child will get sick more often, and this is natural, which means that the mother will often have to take sick leave. And, secondly, adaptation will be softer if the mother tries at first to "dose" a visit to the kindergarten for her child.

The best option for pediatricians, including Komarovsky, is the situation when the mother remains at home on maternity leave for several more months in order to be able to leave the child at home at any time without clarifying the relationship with the authorities if he has the first manifestations of the disease - a runny nose, cough . This is good for the baby himself, as he will more easily endure the disease, and for other children whom he will not infect.

About what a "good kindergarten" is and how to approach the choice of a kindergarten, Dr. Komarovsky will tell in the next issue.

Adaptation

This is the most difficult in the whole story with the beginning of visiting the kindergarten. Evgeny Komarovsky emphasizes that there are no children who would not go through a difficult process of adaptation. A lot of things happen to a child at once: he experiences, emotionally and psychologically, a lot of things “rebuild” in his body too. In the kindergarten, there is a daily routine, and therefore the child willy-nilly will have to adapt to it, new food, the child’s immunity “gets acquainted” with new viruses circulating in the children’s team, and hence frequent morbidity, especially at first, while there are no specific antibodies.

How long the adaptation will last depends only on the child himself. For some it is 2-3 months, for others it is a year or even more.

If parents cannot influence the incidence in any way, then they are quite capable of making adaptation easier. To do this, you need to choose the right time of year when the baby starts going to kindergarten. In seasons of increased incidence (from late October to April), it is better not to do this, Komarovsky says. But at the end of spring and summer - please.

Possible problems

Such a significant change in a child's life as kindergarten can lead to a number of problems, both psychological and medical. However, Komarovsky advises to prepare for them in advance. Best of all, from birth.

Dr. Komarovsky will tell about the concept of "non-Sadikov's child" and whether there is such a concept at all in the issue below.

The trouble is, says Komarovsky, that in most kindergartens they do not observe the correct temperature regime, do not monitor the humidity of the air. Educators are horrified at the thought of opening the window and airing out the group in the dead of winter. As a result, a child who breathes dry air in the garden in the overheated group gets sick more often. And this is mistakenly considered a contraindication to attending a kindergarten. It is about such children that they say that they are not kindergarten.

Hello dear readers! I have not written anything for a long time, although there were many thoughts and ideas. Of course, I'm lazy and I just can't get myself together and sit down at my "typewriter", but this time I was very distracted by problems related to my daughter's health.

We went to the garden

As I wrote earlier, in September we went to kindergarten. Don’t think, I don’t want to dissuade anyone from kindergarten or scare anyone at all - I just want parents to imagine what “adaptation” of a child to a new environment - kindergarten can mean. I thought that I knew and was ready for the fact that a child who is just going to kindergarten in almost 100% of cases starts to get sick more often. Also, I thought and hoped that my child’s immunity is strong and it’s not so scary for us.

Why did you think so? Because I believed that

• healthy lifestyle; breast-feeding up to one and a half years of age;
• walks every day and in any weather;
• a lot of time spent in the country near the forest and the lake itself, food and much more should positively affect the baby's immunity.

Getting used to kindergarten

But it turned out that we are not so strong. I will describe in stages how we got used psychologically to the new environment:

1. Big interest. At first (the first week) I could not pick up my daughter from kindergarten.
2. Loss of interest. At this stage, the child peacefully expressed his not particular desire to attend kindergarten.
3. "I want to go to my mother!!!" The baby terribly did not want to go to the garden - during her stay there she constantly cried and acted up. We got out of this situation like this: we started driving our daughter only a few hours a day, as if agreeing with her when she would be taken away. Over the course of a week, she became calmer, and after about two weeks she began to attend kindergarten with pleasure, to behave appropriately: play, have fun, eat, sleep, etc ...
4. Addiction, interest and desire to attend kindergarten.

Diseases from kindergarten

The period of addiction also affected the health of the child. Here is what we have already managed to get over these 2.5 months:

1. Food poisoning (5 days of treatment);

2. Angina (treated for about 2 weeks);

3. Cough wet (cured without a doctor in a few days);

4. ARI with a temperature under 39.5, accompanied by a wet cough (treated for 10 days);

5. And now again - it is not clear what - very heat 39.7 no more symptoms, we are taking antibiotics, and on Monday we will have the test results.

There were 2 more times a runny nose, but I don’t count it anymore. Moreover, in fairness, I’ll say that I don’t think that the child picked up all these sores in the garden, but for some reason we used to get sick once every half a year or even a year ...

I'm just in shock. After all, I heard more than once from parents whose children just went to kindergarten: “We are treated for a week, we visit the garden for a week ...”

Doctors say that the child should develop immunity to various viruses and microbes. Adaptation takes from 3 to 6 months, sometimes more. This is a little reassuring, but you need to have courage and patience for this entire period. Childhood diseases need to be ill in childhood - and adapt.

All children are different and adapt differently.

How did your children get used to the kindergarten environment? What difficulties did you encounter during this period? Let's share our experience!

Dr. Komarovsky: adaptation period in kindergarten

Socialization is an important process of becoming a person. For children, it starts in the family and continues among peers, first in kindergarten and then at school. Therefore, sooner or later, every parent faces the question: when to send their child to kindergarten. It should be said that there is no unambiguous opinion on this matter. However, there are a number of well-established principles that have been tested for decades, as well as advice from experienced pediatricians and teachers on this matter.

Rules for admission to kindergarten

Children should be able to play with peers

For new parents, especially if they have a first child, the issue of entering kindergarten causes a lot of talk and controversy. Starting from the optimal age for the first acquaintance with a preschool institution and ending with the necessary set of clothes for walking and sleeping.

The law on the acceptance of children in kindergartens stipulates that the baby can be given to nursery group from the age of nine months. The child does not require any skills and abilities. This rule has not changed since Soviet times, when the period of maternity leave was much shorter than at present. Therefore, now not many parents decide to give such crumbs to a nursery group. And in the nursery they start accepting babies from the age of two. At the same time, the child should already be able to ask for a potty.

For children who enter junior group Kindergarten has the following requirements:

• the ability to eat independently with a spoon;
• fold the pyramid to reduce the volume of the rings;
• collect elementary figures from cubes;
• distinguish colors (desirable, but not a prerequisite).

For admission to a kindergarten (nursery), parents must write an application, submit a certificate of the child's health and collect the necessary set of things for the baby, a list of which can be found in the selected institution.

Readiness criteria

A child in kindergarten should have basic skills

Psychologists and teachers agree that in order for the beginning of education in kindergarten not to be stressful for the child, you need to carefully consider the criteria that determine the readiness of the baby to enter a preschool institution.

1. The main recommendation for parents is the choice of the optimal age. Better if it's before the crisis three years or after it. However, as you know, the crisis manifests itself in all children individually: for someone at 2.5 years old, and for someone closer to 4 years old. Therefore, if possible, it is better to enter kindergarten from the age of 4. By this time, on the one hand, the baby will learn to be without a mother, and on the other hand, an important period of initial world knowledge will end, which occurs through close contact between mother and child.
2. The baby should be able to speak and with the help of his vocabulary formulate thoughts or requests.
3. In order for the adaptation in the peer group to be successful, the child must strive for contacts with other children.
4. The child has developed basic everyday skills: he can dress himself with minimal help, eats with a spoon and uses the potty without any problems.

How to make adaptation easy and painless

A positive image of a kindergarten is the basis for successful adaptation

If you think that the child is ready for kindergarten, then it is important to take into account some factors that help to easily and quickly survive the adaptation period:

• An important aspect of choosing the time of admission to kindergarten is the season. The best period is from July to August. At this time of the year, children's immunity is strengthened. summer sun and vitamins, which means that many infections and viruses are not terrible. In addition, all training sessions begin in September, therefore, the child will have time to adapt to a new place, getting used to, which studies will only interfere with.
• The baby needs to form a positive image of the child preschool. To do this, show him pictures of children in kindergarten more often, talk with your child about how to have a good time with peers, how many new friends he will have.
• Adjust the daily routine of the child to the kindergarten routine. So you will greatly facilitate the child getting used to the daily routine, discipline him.
• Try to make the topic of kindergarten come up more often in your communication with neighbors and relatives - kids are very sensitive to adult conversations.
• Teach your child to get ready for kindergarten in the evening, as you do by the next working day. Help the baby prepare clothes, choose a toy with which he will go to kindergarten. Put everything in a bag or bag. This habit will be useful in the subsequent school period.
• Talk to the parents of those guys who your baby likes. This will help strengthen their friendship.
• Be attentive to how the child perceives the teacher and teachers in kindergarten. If someone is frankly unsympathetic to the baby, it is better to change the group. Do not try to force a child to love someone - he does not have to do this.

A.S. Makarenko said: “The educator must behave in such a way that every movement educates him, and must always know what he wants at the moment and what he does not want. If the educator does not know this, whom can he educate?

Many modern moms rush to go to work and kindergarten for their kids is inevitable. In the same families where there is someone to look after the child, the issue of a preschool institution is solved in different ways. Some adults remember their own negative experience and refuse to register their son or daughter in kindergarten, while others, on the contrary, believe that socialization is necessary, and life in a team the best way prepare the child for school.

Which position is correct? Should I take my child to kindergarten? It is worth exploring these issues in more detail. We will consider the pros and cons of an ordinary kindergarten, the issue of preparing for school, and also give the opinions of experts.

Benefits of attending a preschool

There are many arguments that are usually given by the adherents of the kindergarten. We list the main ones:

• The main and most obvious plus of attending a preschool is the opportunity to communicate with peers. A child in a team learns to communicate, hones his sociability. As early as two years old, kids begin to be interested in peers and learn to play together. Disputes and quarrels bring up in children the ability to compromise, admit their guilt and find true friends.
• In the team, the baby's immunity is subjected to a powerful attack, which trains him and makes him stronger. Kids 2-5 years old often infect each other with infectious diseases. Pediatricians believe that it is better to have infectious diseases in childhood in order to develop immunity to them. Chickenpox, mumps and rubella are much easier to carry in preschool age and rarely cause complications.
• Any institution for children must meet the basic parameters: have enough space for games, it must have a room equipped for sleeping. Children study, dance and sing, teachers, speech therapists work with them, there is a full-time psychologist. In addition, there is a program of preparation for school, which takes into account all the nuances.
• The garden helps its pupil to become autonomous. Often it is here, away from mom, that you have to learn to dress yourself, go to the potty on time, eat with a spoon and use a towel (we recommend reading:). There is only one educator and it is not necessary to expect guardianship from him akin to the one that the baby sees at home. The word “I want” or “give” is no longer so often heard from the lips of my mother's pet. So, you need to learn to do many things on your own.

What else is a clear advantage?

Above, we have listed the most obvious advantages of a standard kindergarten. There are also less noticeable things that any parent of a kindergarten child can realize:

• Children get used to the regime, which has a good effect on health and overall development. In addition, teachers require kids to adhere to the rules of behavior in a team. Thanks to the regime and the constant example of classmates, children, surrounded by peers, eat and sleep better, and also dress for a walk faster. Usually a kindergarten child is more disciplined than one who grows up under the supervision of a mother or a babysitter.
• Modern children already at the age of 2-3 spend a lot of time in the virtual world or watching cartoons. It is in a peer group under the supervision of a teacher that a small person is reliably protected from computers, tablets, smartphones. Children spend the whole day according to the schedule: instead of cartoons - drawing or modeling from plasticine, instead of computer games or the Internet - preparing for the matinee.
• A good preschool for a son or daughter will allow a mother to go to work and increase her material well-being. In addition, some women need to realize themselves in a team, move along career ladder, which makes it possible to feel your need not only at home, but also at work. A financially secure, self-confident mother will not be annoyed over trifles, but will be able to bestow her love on the baby in full.

Cons of Kindergarten

Some mothers say: “I don’t want to send my child to kindergarten, I’m afraid that he won’t get enough attention there!”. This is partly true, a daily visit to such an institution is fraught with a number of difficulties and many see many disadvantages in it. Here are some of the more obvious ones:

• The peer group is not always the best environment for little man. The ability to communicate, find compromises and even make friends can be perfected at home with adults, on the playground. In addition, the child can attend various children's classes - circles or sections. In the garden, there is often some pressure from the educators, the requirements “to be like everyone else”, the presence of leaders in the team. If the baby is brought up at home, he will avoid the stress that will certainly arise in a new environment, among unfamiliar children and strict teachers. He will learn a lot by watching and participating in the current events of his family, instead of replacing real situations with play ones.
• Even the most progressive pre-school institution separates the child from the family, teaches them not to feel too deeply attached to their parents. Today, many mothers and fathers do not know how to communicate with their child and spend time with their families. It’s all to blame for the persistent belief that children need to be constantly distracted, to look for entertainment for them. Any child will be able to play on their own for quite a long period, being near their mother. Sometimes it is enough to play with the baby for a short time so that for the next half hour he finds something to do, completely satisfied with communication with his mother.
• Independence in a children's institution is very conditional. Pupils are subject to strict rules that do not allow them to express themselves. For the educator, the main advantage of each baby is the ability to obey and act within the outlined framework. Mom prepares her daughter or son for adulthood, sensitively reacting to his achievements, each time giving him more and more freedom.

Caring for mental and physiological health is the task of parents

Giving a daughter or son to the garden, many do not think about how this will affect his health. Here we are talking about both physical and psychological aspects. I would like to note that the cons far outweigh the possible pros:

• The famous pediatrician Dr. Komarovsky believes that the child will have healthy respiratory and cardiovascular systems if he spends enough time on fresh air. In this case, it is not at all necessary to go through the stage of a series of diseases. Frequent colds and infectious diseases, which are inevitable in a large children's team, do not always favorably affect the immunity and general condition of a preschooler. Each disease is fraught with complications, and regular dropouts from the life of the team do not allow the child to comfortably adapt in his group.
• IN children's institution discipline is above all. It is difficult for different pupils to adapt to the routine for everyone. Active kids can hardly fall asleep at the allotted time, because they do not have time to calm down before bedtime. It is difficult for them to wake up "on call". As a result, they are deprived of a good rest. Each baby has its own biorhythms, according to which it is best to organize classes, sleep or active games. These mismatches can have a negative impact on the general condition.
• Sometimes educators are quite rude and require the children to instantly fulfill their requirements. Not a very good teacher, not wanting to understand children's conflicts, often punishes everyone who does not obey. An impressionable baby can experience stress and even get psychologically traumatized if he is unfairly punished.
• Children tend to adopt the behavior of others, and not just adults. In a team, you can get a bad example of behavior, learn to fight or use foul language - quarrels and fights are possible among peers. No mother or educator can protect an obedient child from the influence of aggressive children, unless they violate discipline too grossly.

Is preparation for school an obligatory part of the program?

What is considered good school preparation? Preschooler's ability to read and write block letters and count on sticks? It turns out that when entering school, these skills will not be superfluous, but they are not required. The main thing that school teachers are guided by is the ability to learn: to listen, to assimilate information, and also to have developed logical thinking.

It is necessary to think about whether it is necessary to take a preschooler to kindergarten for the sake of quality preparation for school:

• There is no special program in the kindergarten, which is designed to direct the development of the future student in the right direction. In order to develop logic, it is necessary to solve special problems with the child, ask them to argue one or another decision. It is also desirable to develop his general outlook and encourage the desire to know the world - all this is best done on an individual basis.
• Especially collective preschool education is not suitable for children with a pronounced personality. Educators instill in pupils the idea that you need to be like everyone else and not stand out. During creative activities, children are instructed to make applications or sculpt figures according to a template, draw on a declared topic. If the child likes to fantasize and invent their own games, unusual ways creating paintings, applications, it will not be easy for him in such conditions. For him, the result of classes may be zero.
• Often, in a children's state institution, the school preparation program is somewhat outdated. Every year the requirements for entering the first grade change, it is better to prepare the future student in accordance with the new requests of teachers.

As you can see, there is no need to visit the garden solely to prepare for school. Mom can work with her preschooler herself, or take him to classes a couple of times a week. In a preschool institution, they devote very little time to lessons and do not practice an individual approach to each preschooler.

What do the experts say?

Parents should decide on their own whether a kindergarten is needed for their son or daughter, says teacher and psychologist Anna Besinger. In order for the decision to be balanced, it is advisable to sensibly evaluate all the advantages and disadvantages of a preschool institution. For those who decide to register their baby in the garden, it is important to think about how to make it easier for the child to adapt to new conditions. It’s great if the baby knows how to eat on his own, use the potty, dress, can communicate with peers (we recommend reading:). Those families that are going through a divorce, have recently moved, replenished with a newborn brother or sister, it is better to wait a little with kindergarten. The child at this moment is going through a period of adaptation to new conditions and the kindergarten will become another factor that can cause stress.

According to the famous family psychologist, writer, member of the Association of Family Devices "Family for a Child" - Lyudmila Petranovskaya, it is advisable to immediately determine the status of a kindergarten for yourself. If you perceive it only as a place where you can fearlessly leave the child while the parents are at work, the garden turns into a necessary, convenient and inexpensive service. If you make excessive demands on this institution and expect that the child will be qualitatively prepared for school in it and that a lot of attention will be paid to its development, you can get a negative result. Those parents who need to free up time for work may well leave the baby in kindergarten without worrying about his safety and entertainment. Moms and dads who are ready to be with their child, communicate with him, play - they can do without a kindergarten.

A psychologist and psychotherapist, candidate of psychological sciences Irina Mlodik takes a different position. Every adult who visited the garden as a child has memories of him - some are pleasant, funny, some are not very, Irina believes. Despite such opposing opinions, a kindergarten - necessarily a good one - is necessary for a child who has reached 3 years of age.

The ideal option is to completely disengage from the impressions that kindergarten left on parents in their childhood. You should also take into account the warehouse of the child's personality, his hobbies and inclinations.

The decision is yours

As you can see, not all experts adhere to a single point of view. Some believe that home education is more even, calm and, with the right approach, allows you to identify and nurture individuality in a child, the ability to express one's thoughts. Others strongly recommend that parents think about the socialization of the baby and be sure to find him a good teacher.

It is impossible to give a clear and unambiguous answer to the question of whether your child needs kindergarten. All parents are different and each of them has their own experience of visiting the garden. This experience will certainly become one of the weighty arguments in favor of making a decision “for” or “against”. However, sometimes it is worth giving up your own impressions in order to make an informed decision. In reality, the garden is good way arrange a child for a time while mom is busy. While the baby is visiting the group, you can not worry about his leisure time, regular meals and sleep. If parents can look after the child on their own, you can organize creative and developmental activities for him at home. Loving parents are able to give their baby a decent upbringing, as well as provide him with full and regular communication with peers.

Remember - when deciding whether or not to send your child to kindergarten, it is important not only to take into account your own desires and needs. It would be nice to think about the readiness of the child himself, as well as his personal qualities, which may not fit into general program and childcare facilities.